As a man, I genuinely wonder how much actual harassment women face vs how much they hear about it.
I get to feel that a lot of these fears are real, but many are manufactured. But I can be wrong.
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vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 hours ago
unless you’ve actually literally lived as a woman you cannot know the monumental amount of sexual harassment we face and fear on a day-to-day basis. doubly so for trans women. every single moment i am alone in public i am deathly anxious that i could be harassed (sexually or otherwise) or hate-crimed or whatever. and the worst part is, there’s nothing i could do about it. the perpetrator would get away scot-free. the cops do not fucking care
however bad you think it is, it’s worse. whatever you’re imagining, it is exponentially more horrendous
Allero@lemmy.today 5 hours ago
Beebabe@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
Anecdotally, last week I (middle aged lady) was approached by two strange men. One tried to grab me outside my work site, and one told me how lovely I was and asked for my number (in target). It’s much, much worse for young women. It’s not manufactured, unlike the doubt of women’s lived experience seems to be.
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 hours ago
This is the thing as a former white man.
Authority to touch others flows down the privilege hierarchy.
Trans women are always judged as the aggressor, always. Our bodies are considered public property.
minorkeys@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
If men can never know. How can men ever trust women’s calls to action on the issues are fair, just or worthwhile?
BrilliantantTurd4361@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
Your retort is that because you lack empathy women are somehow suspect?
minorkeys@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
It is because I have empathy for both women and men. It also means those who don’t understand ,or get offended, may lack the empathy for both needed to understand the point made. Do you empathize with men’s experience of women?
GiantChickDicks@lemmy.ml 8 hours ago
The same way we trust that it’s really painful for men to get kicked in the junk without having to experience it ourselves.
minorkeys@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
And how do we accomplish that?
GiantChickDicks@lemmy.ml 6 hours ago
If I knew how to make everyone empathetic we wouldn’t even need to be discussing this in the first place. What a vapid question.
ChadGPT2@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
You answered your own question. The task for men is to trust women when they describe their experiences, even if it’s completely invisible and alien to their own experiences. Reading detailed firsthand accounts is a good way to build understanding.
minorkeys@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
That is not a task for men. That is a demand from women. If men can only decide to believe based on the trust they have with the speaker then the speaker must earn their trust. It is not men’s responsibility to become trusting of women, just because women want it. If women want men to trust their words then it’s women’s responsibility to gain men’s trust. It would be profoundly unwise of men to believe without either trust or safety. How often do you ever concern yourself with the safety of men?
ChadGPT2@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
I think we all need to do the work to understand the problems faced by different groups. Women need to be doing this too. This isn’t a thread about problems men face, however.
MerryJaneDoe@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
This is kind of an insane take.
Women have always been vulnerable. Women get raped and sexually assaulted at rates far beyond men. Women are easy targets because they are, on average, physically weaker than males. 50% of women will suffer a sexual assault of some kind in their life. Just 3% of men report a sexual assault.
TheSeveralJourneysOfReemus@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
The introduced it first in saudi arabia in 2019, after women were given the right to drive, turns out they found it good so they used this setting in the US (2025) and elsewhere (2025 - 2026). The feature is a priority queue for women
When requesting a trip, women will receive a new option called ‘Women Drivers.’ If the wait time is longer than they want, though, they’ll still have the option to receive other rides with faster pickup times.
In other words, if you’re a guy and the area is poorly covered, you get your uber driver all the same.
dude@lemmings.world 7 hours ago
It depends where you live really. It’s a problem in the US indeed but for instance in many countries in Europe they don’t sexually harass their females on a “day-to-day basis”
innermachine@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
I have twice been in public with my fiance and some random twat in a pickup truck yells cat calls while driving by slowly in a parking lot. Wish the fuckers would stop so I can pull them through the window. God knows what she’s delt with when I’m NOT standing next to her holding her hand. Sick as a society we are, that’s why we have trump as pedophile in cheif. Smh.
TheBenCommandments@infosec.pub 8 minutes ago
Since you said they’re a she, it’s fiancée. Congrats on the nups!