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it’s disingenuous as hell to pretend that men being weird or sexual towards women isn’t the most common by a colossal margin.

I’m not convinced. Every guy I know has a story about women being creeps to them, but ask them if they reported it, every single one of them will say no.

And for the very few that do try to report it? They’re usually laughed out of the room. My own mother said “oh but it’s cute when older women do it to younger guys”. That’s not a rare opinion, that’s the default in our culture.

So we don’t show up in any official statistics, because our culture discourages us from reporting, and is less likely to take us seriously if we do.

So no, I’m not convinced that men being weird to women is the most common by any margin. We haven’t even asked men.

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surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Hello. You now know me. I have none of those stories. Women have been nothing but respectful to me.

But if you’re comfortable sharing, I would love to hear your story about how you were harassed by a female Uber driver.

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- Pudutr0n@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I’m a guy. I was harassed by a female uber driver once (I wrote about it here) and I also…
  
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  I was raped by a women while intoxicated a few years ago. It didn’t traumatize me heavily, but I definitely was raped. Would you like to hear about it?
  
  I usually have positive interactions with women and appreciate the ones in my life, but just cause these things are rare doesn’t mean they don’t happen.
  
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  - surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    That’s horrible. I don’t know how to do a spoiler tag, but let’s just say ; same.
    
    So to stay on topic. Would you use a feature that let you not have women drivers?
    
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    Pudutr0n@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    I’m sorry you went through that.
    
    Not really, no. I don’t mind.
    
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  - surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    That’s super awkward. Sorry you had to deal with that.
    
    To stay on topic, would you use an option to not ride with women drivers now?
    
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- yucandu@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I don’t take uber or taxis. But I’ve had random women come up to me in public places and grab my private parts, or say sexually suggestive things, and it makes me feel kinda paralyzed, like a deer in headlights, cause what am I gonna do, be the guy that yells at a woman for sexual assault? And then I just never go back in that store for a few months.
  
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brucethemoose@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Man, that is not my experience at all.

I’m a guy. And even some of the things my (former) guy friends said about women and their relationships dropped my jaw. Same with some family.

The longer I love, the more I think “man… can my sex just not be such pricks? Please?” And is not even close to so prominant with women I’ve known, especially when I dive into the issues.

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