Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college?

• idiomaddict@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Many people live in towns with fewer than five companies, with poor internet access. Many people have to keep odd schedules because of family care obligations. Many people are functionally illiterate. Many people have criminal convictions. There are a lot of things that can limit your ability to leave a job you already have.

  Many people do accept work conditions worse than they have to, but not every worker is flexible enough to choose their work.

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Then they have to move.

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    • idiomaddict@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      I’m glad for you. It sounds like you were smart or skilled enough to be presented with opportunities to leave and had the foresight to take them and the dedication to fully benefit from them. Not everyone is or has those qualities and that’s not a moral failing.

      You overcame difficult circumstances, but that’s due to you being an exception, and whether that’s because of qualities inherent to you or luck is impossible to determine. The idea of it being luck is scary, but that doesn’t mean that everyone who doesn’t behave exactly as you did is to blame for their circumstances.

      Surely you know people from your hometown who earnestly tried, but were just too dumb to really keep up in school or with complicated conversations among friends. Do you think they would be able to achieve what you have? What about the smart kids with severe ADHD who were flaky due to no fault of their own? If so, what use is your intelligence or ingenuity?

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