Apytele@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
No one is making you be here. You can click a button and start your own community and if your modding policies are that much better people will switch. …or none or very few of the users like what you say and the mod just happens to be the one responsible for telling you.
Is it frustrating to be part of the outgroup? Sure. Is it frustrating to have an opinion people dislike or don’t think is worth leaving their ingroup for? Sure. But that’s just called being a weirdo. Lots of people are weirdos. I’m a weirdo. In fact it’s often hard for me to get certain things done or find certain products. Bigelow doesn’t stock my favorite flavor in most stores because it’s not popular enough. That’s not oppression that’s just being unpopular.
Being a weirdo isn’t for the faint of heart. Dialectal behavior therapy changed my life and teaches four ways to approach a problem. 1. Stop seeing it as a problem. 2. Fix the problem (conform). 3. Accept the problem. 4. Stay whiny. I tend to vacillate between 1 and 3 (sigh sadly and order my tea online) but I spend little time bitching online about how it’s other people’s fault.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 day ago
what’s frustrating the most is how people hate you for factual true opinions, because those truths don’t align with their delusional worldview.
Apytele@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
oh god that’s it; you’re an utterly insufferable person. And learning how to constructively approach injustice by conserving and directing your energy towards actions that will make the most real difference is a core goal of the therapy. Either put in the effort to become someone people want to be around or accept people don’t want to be around you.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 day ago
right, so if an external reality gets in the way of my feelings, I should simple ignore and or deny that it exists? if someone makes me feel bad they are bad person! such a constructive and mature way to approach other people.
I have no problem being around people who acknowledge there is a world outside of themselves. I don’t get along with people who think the world is merely an extension of their feelings.
I mean i’m glad you don’t think facts exist or reality exists outside of the thoughts in your head, and therefore nobody else is real, but most well-adjusted people don’t engage in solipsism. If the acknowledgement of other people existing who are different than you is so painful, the issue isn’t them. It’s you.