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Comment on Sometimes I wonder if my older brother and I both were in grave danger, who would my parents save first... 🤔

It’s good too always bear this in mind when asking this question: Sophie’s choice is a thought experiment. Meaning that the perfect conditions where a parent has to choose one child to live based on their personal preference, don’t exist. If both kids are in danger of being hit by a bus, the parent will grab both of them. Or if the parent has only one arm, they will grab the one who’s more in danger, or even get themselves in the way to save both kids.
In less dramatic circumstances, the parent might choose to give more money to kid 1 because they think they need it more, or because they think they will manage it better. It doesn’t mean they love kid 1 more than kid 2.
I’m a parent. I have infinite love for both of my kids. Love doesn’t play favourites or get into mind games. I love them differently because they are two different people. Treating them exactly the same would lead to unfairness, because their needs are not exactly the same. That applies to the ‘who do I save?’ scenario too, because invariably, one of them will be in more danger/be more possible to save than the other one in that moment.

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DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

In less dramatic circumstances, the parent might choose to give more money to kid 1 because they think they need it more, or because they think they will manage it better.

Or because one has depression the the parent think less of them since they don’t “act normal” and they get threatened with getting left out of the will… 🙃

(It’s me, I’m the puddle of depression… guess why I’m even depresed in the first place… thanks a lot, mom 🥲)

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- jafra@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Having an Illness ist nobodys choice and in a perfect world this wouldn’t be held against anyone. People are pepple though. There’s lots of noise, bad decisions and working on oneselfs traumata, because every person has his bad experiences, some more so of course. I guess your parents, too. Theirs might not compare with yours in your eyes, they are stuck in their shoes though.
  
  ++ Understanding what some mental illness mean in real life and in some specific variants/phenotypes is difficult non-affected.
  
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- originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  your have parents that had anything to leave?
  
  most of us dont get that far
  
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- crapwittyname@feddit.uk ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  I’m sorry to hear that. Some parents are worse than useless, which means you get to make your own connections with people you choose. Is the money in the will enough to buy your obedience to someone who actively makes you depressed?
  
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  - DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Heathcare is expensive and I need their ongoing financial support to even seek treatment for depression lol
    
    Catch 22
    
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