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disregardable@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
Well yeah, men have to approach, so most of the burden of learning to date falls on men. That means you need to figure out which girls are attracted to you and which aren’t, how to approach in a cool and casual way, how to be friendly and funny to keep them interested, how to take care of yourself so they feel attracted to you, etc. It’s tough being a young man out there. Really you should probably be talking to other guys your age about it, as they’ll best be able to critique what you’re doing wrong.
just_another_person@lemmy.world 1 day ago
This…is not true. Many women approach men. Not all, but many. Just depends on the personality.
The reason it’s tough being a young man out there right now is because you have all these dipshit right-wing machismo assholes trying to indoctrinate young men into being complete and total pricks, as if women aren’t keeping tabs.
Unless you are waving a white flag and doing your best to demonstrate you DO NOT subscribe to that bullshit, they want nothing to do with you.
disregardable@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
Maybe in some European country that’s the case, but in the American context there’s a strong presumption that the man will approach, to the point where it’s absolutely not realistic to advise men that they don’t need to learn to approach. Yes you also need to not be an asshole, and that’s important, but if you don’t start talking to women in the first place, they can’t know you’re an asshole or not.