Tbf, most don’t seem to realize what they want, and some are literally and actually children. It hurts the Threadiverse that upon having a bad experience here, they go and talk about us there in that highly negative light. And it helps us here to know what is being said over there - i.e. it’s not solely the onboarding experience being difficult (having to choose an instance, getting through the sign-up process, then community discovery, which never ends, nor does the need to continually block new toxic users), but even for people that remained here for months to a year did not stay, and it’s good to know why (mainly lack of niche content plus toxicity).
It hurts the Threadiverse that upon having a bad experience here, they go and talk about us there in that highly negative light.
And how often does that happen, versus trolls shit-talking us for no reason but malice?
That’s a bit too close to “fascists have legitimate grievances” for me to take seriously.
Oh let me be clear, I think we are toxic as fuck here. Setting aside the constant trolling barrages by Hexbears, the fact that the fights between tankies and others pervades EVERYWHERE (even/especially shit posting, memes, and for some reason especially comics), and do you really think that a Windows user will feel at home in this shrine to Arch btw Linux?
It can also be a fun place to be, even chill depending on where you go. But to a user looking at us without any blocks (for users, communities, even whole instances), it looks very different than it does to most of us. Especially if they use Windows are right-leaning on the political spectrum. Sigh, e.g. whether women should have the right to do whatever they want with their own bodies is somehow “political”, so looking at how we talk from the perspective of let’s say a teenager who never knew any different than what they were taught, we are not terribly welcoming. We can be a pretty self-righteous bunch. 🤔
Remember, messages require the consent of both parties as to what they mean: you can intend to convey whatever, but they decide what they feel having received that. And if they feel that being here was “grating”, and they did not feel “welcomed”, and say that other centrists to right-wingers are likely to feel likewise, then that’s their decision and they have a right to feel that way (because it is subjectively true:-).
Which brings me back to: it’s fine to not want right-wing people here. So why not be honest about that? We’re toxic AF, and also unwelcoming to people unless they pass the moral purity testing, which never ends. 😋
I’ve been here a while, I prefer this over reddit.
Sure, niche content is missing, but that’s because it’s niche, and comes with time and a larger group of people on here. Reddit didn’t start out with the niche content either.
I haven’t noticed the toxicity myself, I’m sure it’s there, but I’m likely privileged not to have noticed it. Or perhaps I’m one of the toxic users, because I’m too leftist for some (though I’m no tankie)
A lot of people on Reddit are from the USA, and are centrists to right-wingers by their standards. Ironically these often think of themselves as left-leaning (e.g. critical of Republicans locally) but without realizing that they are actually solidly on the right in comparison on the global stage. e.g. Bernie Sanders supporters.
So that can be quite a rude awakening for the uninitiated, to be told (truthfully) that you are right-wing. Also, some people - including those on the Threadiverse - sometimes just want to shut out politics for like 10-30 minutes a day, which is extremely difficult here as it pervades just about every single corner, without EXTENSIVE and ongoing efforts to keep it at bay.
And those factors interrelate, like if you disallow politics then you end up having next to no content, whereas if you allow it then a good fraction of the viewers stop engaging.
I am not saying that we need to be more welcoming to right-wingers, I am saying that it is a choice and we should honestly acknowledge that. We choose to make Redditors feel unwelcomed here, for the most part. If that desire were to change then it would require much effort to enact - a lot more than current moderation capabilities support. Hence those people will elect to remain on the likes of X, Meta, Facebook, or X where they feel welcomed. The toxicity that you know how to deal with, rather than a new brand of it that you don’t, and all of that.
SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
At least personally I don’t really see how the threadiverse is more toxic than reddit. Though it may be because my instance is simply good at blocking the toxicity away, and the instance their chose isn’t. Which could be something to work on I suppose, but moderation is always a big discussion in these situations, with some people not liking moderation but also, in reality, wanting it
As for niche content, that, unfortunately, is just a catch 22 situation. No simple solution other than to simply get more people to join
OpenStars@piefed.social 1 week ago
Yeah Ada is pretty amazing, ngl that is likely why for you - not many spaces have such a fantastic person looking out for them. There is occasional drama like the 196 situation in the last year but even that she handled with grace and class and a deft hand.
About Reddit, there’s a lot there: mainly it’s a network effect, and so people are just looking for any excuse to justify not having to move, and go somewhere with less content that is “different”.
Also a big part is that while the main subs are toxic AF, the niche ones there are mainly free of toxicity (people say? I haven’t been back to see personally since the Rexodus!), so it’s a bit of an apples to oranges comparison - but on the other hand, the niche subs here have barely any content, like after you spend 5-10 minutes reading every single comment even across every cross-post for the 1-5 daily posts (or worse, weekly, or worse still, monthly) posts, then there’s nothing left. So remaining in the niche subs here might leave you with zero to a couple upvotes mainly per comment, and almost no to possibly 0-3 mainly critical replies to a post.
So here, people - especially new users - really are going to be drawn mostly to the largest communities, which ofc are going to be those with the most toxicity. Especially since Lemmy does not federate moderator reports so there is such a small pool of mods who are on that exact instance where the community is and willing to absorb that burden - and even then we keep chasing them off, saying how “we” (in terms of the Threadiverse as a whole) are better off without such, but then a new user takes a look at a mostly unmoderated 4chan-style discussion and nopes right back to what they are most comfortable and familiar with: smaller, niche subs on Reddit that have good mods, even despite how Reddit admins control things from above.
I wish we had more like Ada here. But we don’t, so please just enjoy having her where you are at and don’t take her for granted:-).