Comment on Is it normal for mothers to constantly talk to their children about their experience (particulary the part about their pain and suffering) of their pregnancy and giving birth?

• neidu3@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  While true in many cases, it’s not universal. My GF and I have four kids together, and while pregnancy takes a toll on a body, it’s not something that should define the mother-child relationship.

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• FerretyFever0@fedia.io ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I mean, she chose to do it. You're not the one that got her pregnant, that's on her and your father. Personally, I wouldn't feel any guilt for that, she shouldn't keep bringing it up, that's a little weird. C-sections are pretty insane though,

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• DrFistington@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  You have to think today for most of human history, the women who were educated and well off enough to write about the pain of child birth were upper class white women who had never really undergone physical hardship.

  From my wife’s account, being pregnant is great, birth is fine except for the last 2-3 contractions, which are pretty rough. Then again she runs marathons for fun and it’s an OB gyn nurse, so she understands that having a baby is like any other extreme physical activity

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  • FerretyFever0@fedia.io ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    So, it might not be as bad as certain women describe it? I mean, periods sound pretty rough, especially for those with endometriosis, I'd expect that squeezing a couple kilos of bone and flesh out is pretty shit too. I personally wouldn't want any part of that sort of thing, controversial, I know.

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    • VindictiveJudge@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      It varies a lot from woman to woman and from one pregnancy to another. Anywhere from, “That’s it? That wasn’t so bad,” to, “Oh, god! Kill me to make the pain stop!”

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    • trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      So, it might not be as bad as certain women describe it?

      There are probably people exaggerating it, as well as people downplaying it. However, the variation is to big for an outsider to be certain either way.

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• Jerb322@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  This is the first moving name tag that I’ve ever seen. Sorry for changing the subject.

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