I just keep sending them memes I know they’ll like. I’ve had 3 friends joing various instances so far, because after a while they just go:
Man…where do you get these memes?!
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ulterno@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
I advertised Lemmy to my friends a few times and they have now stopped replying to my messages :P
Sturgist@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
FarraigePlaisteach@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Not memes but I keep the address bar in the screen shot.
Sturgist@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
Fair play, whatever works is what’s best
ulterno@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
Ah well, I am not good at that.
The best I have gotten people to say is how I “know so much” about stuff at work and the best I can point them to is Wikipedia, StackOverflow and the like, which of course they aren’t really interested in doing and their lines are probably just a way to try and flatter me.Sturgist@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
At least they’re flattering you 💪
ulterno@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
Honestly, it is not fun being flattered in a way that makes me try to give them an answer that they will ignore.
Imagine a C++ compiler with a mind reading you ignoring the return value of a
[[nodiscard]]function.
OpenStars@piefed.social 5 weeks ago
Same. It greatly did not help that Google searching for “Lemmy” used to go straight to lemmy.ml (as the first hit to a specific instance, after the stuff about the singer), which if you take a look at without an account you will see shows “Local” rather than “All” posts.
Just imagine: you sent a Westerner to a place that routinely and literally calls for the actual murder and downfall of all of Western society, with such posts peaking just before any election in a Western nation. YOU might block those types of posts, but I am explaining what the people that you mentioned Lemmy to almost surely saw? (although immediately after the USA election I started noticing a shift away from it being more confined to just the triad and instead spread more throughout the entire Threadiverse - MANY people now routinely call for the guillotine, with ever-decreasing ratio of joking to serious, and remember that can be shocking to mainstream people?)
ulterno@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
Yeah.
Although I usually tend to send a link directly to the post (which is relevant to what is being discussed), the things around that might change their impression. And considering that their is more political stuff than plain tech stuff, almost everywhere on the internet rn, that kind of a result is expected.
OpenStars@piefed.social 5 weeks ago
Oh yeah, I concede that there are great discussions there, including some that are nowhere else (more or less, as in with much lower intensity). Certain communities are fine (in terms of their content), and direct links are just flat good scholarship to cite your resources.
That said, the wording of both of our messages here would also, in theory, apply to Reddit, X, Facebook, and even Truth Social, so it makes sense why we are being downvoted, bc the arguments going against moral purity testing are heavily unpopular here. And to some degree rightly so, since we need to separate ourselves as much as possible from such.
You might consider sending people links to those messages as accessable via programming.dev rather than lemmy.ml? Perhaps that approach would have more success at enticing people to join the Threadiverse who absolutely would not if you sent them a link to lemmy.ml and then they explored around that instance a bit and, not liking what they see there (understandably) nope right out of the whole affair.
People are not as simple as (most) programming - there is such variety and the less deep thinkers, who nonetheless have great skills in other areas that you lack (e.g. artists, or woodworking) may need you to do some of that more detailed thinking for them. If you want to - i.e. if you want the benefits that having done so would offer.