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FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

• bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  People get distracted so easily now.

  Honestly every gathering should have people leave their phones in a locker at the door. Guarantee it’ll be more fun.

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I actually don’t bring my phone when I leave the house.

    It blows people’s minds and they immediately start lecturing me how stupid, rude and irresponsible it is.

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    • bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Its great doing this! The only issue is I drive older cars so the phone is very nice in case of a breakdown ha

      A dumb phone for calls only would be good for that. But youd have to preload it with phone numbers of tow companies and friends etc. Would be pretty easy…

      I much prefer not having my phone on me. Humans forgot how to be bored and instantly turn to the little dopamine device at any chance

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• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Yeah, I agree it’s really social media shit.

  I had no problems socializing 10-20 years ago. Now it’s incredibly difficult because people don’t really want to socialize anymore so much as be validated incessantly. It’s warped people’s brains to think any minor discomfort is this horrible thing, and anyone who disagrees with you is a raging asshole.

  In my college days I used to like being around people who disagreed with me and talking about those disagreements. That is how I made most of my friends Now that is all but impossible. The second you disagree now, no matter how trivial, people demonize you and start saying crazy over the top conclusions about how evil and awful you are.

  Literally, I’ve had many of my dates the past few years scream at me what a racist piece of shit I am for the books I read, and also for the books I don’t read. Mostly because I read classics and to people’s mind anyone author born before 1970 is a racist piece of shit or something. I do not understand how people have normalized this insanity.

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  • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It’s true.

    I’m lucky to have a lot of friends via the roller derby community, but I’m a white man in a largely liberal and activist community, so my mantra whenever any controversial topic comes up is: “I don’t feel it’s my place to speak on that” or “I don’t know enough to have an opinion on that”. (Which in a lot of cases is probably true.)

    Those friends end up being surface-level in a lot of ways because I love the sport and can’t risk accidentally saying something that offends someone and risk losing my access to it, because if you say the wrong thing, malice is always assumed and there’s simply no grace given for error.

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    • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      that’s exactly why i left my communities/hobby activities. I can’t live my life that way. It’s miserable being around miserable people who want to be offended by everything.

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      • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        It can be like that for sure. I accidentally called a trans skater ‘she’ three years ago, and they got over it and understood it was a mistake, but one of the refs in the league still won’t talk to me. So petty and stupid how people can be.

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