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Comment on The family name goes first in East Asian names, reflecting the fact that they view family over individual; Whatever the parents' idea of "family" is, triumphs over the children's individuality.

SexualPolytope@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

I think you’re reading way too much into it. We Indians (most of us, people in the South often flip it) write our names similar to the west i.e. family name last. But we definitely have a “family first” culture.

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boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I think OP has some trauma and just wants to vent.

I must say, in official matters it used to be common to put the last name first here in Estonia. Nowadays it’s less common, usually first name comes first. Are we “family first” or “individual first”? Idk, I think we’re kinda individualistic, but most people do still value family quite a lot.

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- DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  
  I think OP has some trauma and just wants to vent.
  
  Yes.
  
  Lots of trauma.
  
  Sorry, but venting is literally what the internet is made for lolz
  
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  - boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    That’s completely valid. I’ve done plenty of trauma dumping here on Lemmy. 99% of it about my ex wife and the shit she’s put me through (massive debt, constant manipulation, threats of suicide, making me feel guilty for literally everything wrong with the world, etc).
    
    Sometimes you want to vent to someone, and you don’t want it to be anyone you know. Plus therapy can be expensive (even in my country despite having socialized healthcare, because all the therapists that work with the socialized healthcare system are booked until the next quarter after the end of the universe usually)
    
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    northernlights@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    
    That’s completely valid. I’ve done plenty of trauma dumping here on Lemmy. 99% of it about my ex wife and the shit she’s put me through (massive debt, constant manipulation, threats of suicide, making me feel guilty for literally everything wrong with the world, etc).
    
    Lol are you me. Except for me it was on reddit.
    
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  - northernlights@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Having been married to a Chinese for 15 years and lived there 2 years, I definitely saw the pressure family could put on an individual in China. Yeah you would need to vent once in a while. I hope you have someone IRL you can also vent to that gets it
    
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