It’s absolutely the same where I grew up, so sorry you had to deal with that.
Comment on Women and men and consensual sex
frustrated_phagocytosis@fedia.io 2 weeks ago
Growing up I never heard anything about not fucking people against their will: heard a lot about keeping my legs closed and deserving negative consequences from sex
watermelonpaloma@lemmy.sdf.org 1 week ago
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
In fairness, nobody specifically told me not to kill other folk or set people’s houses on fire or sexually harass folk. What I did have drilled in to me was an idea of mutual respect; personal boundaries; how not to be a complete dickhead (some may say I’ve not learned much at all about that bit); and how to coexist with others to make everyone’s day that little bit easier, regardless of their gender identity.
I can only assume those basic life lessons are either not being driven home as strongly as they should be in modern life; or there’s outside influences drowning out those voices.
I’m sorry to hear that you had some arsehole giving you such poor life “advice” though. I hope it hasn’t defined or shaped your values of intimacy. It’s yet another erosion of (what I’m assuming) are women’s rights from an early age, and it’s bang out of order.