Comment on Well that showed them
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world 4 weeks agoCorrect. Consent is so fucking hot. For so many reasons
Comment on Well that showed them
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world 4 weeks agoCorrect. Consent is so fucking hot. For so many reasons
krooklochurm@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
Agreed.
It’s cool that some people get off on power dynamics. And if some people think sex is intrinsically about that then it’s not my job to persuade them otherwise.
But the best sex I’ve had is with people who just want it, who ask for what they want, who want to try new things, and who are agreeable to almost anything.
When that kind of energy is present between two (or more) people. My god.
It’s one thing that took me a long time to articulate about why I didn’t seem to vibe with most of the kinky people I’d met. To them kink was bdsm. The two terms were used almost interchangeably. Kinky sex to me is more or less the opposite of that. The absence of power dynamics and the presence of humble, adventurous, wild inhibition.