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• jali67@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  No one is saying both sides should not be responsible. The initial photo from OP is implying that BC was initially for women out of misogyny or some other malicious reason. It is MUCH easier to terminate 1-2 viable eggs through a cycle than millions of sperm without causing infertility.

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  • DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Okay… so? We’re supposed to feed into this premise by making seem like how women’s birth control is more nessisary and softly validate the idea that men don’t care and can’t be bothered? There’s not an unfair stereotype out there that there’s a lot of men being very callous about not wanting to take any measure to protect their partner if it inconveniences them too much while female hormonal birth control is known to have a bunch of horrible side effects that their relationships just expect them to take on so both partners can have fun.

    Under those conditions it does not to me feel unreasonable that women get embittered by having to behave like all the unfair sacrifice for making sex safe enough to participate in is falling on female shoulders at present. Feelings don’t care about facts and strictly debating the scientific difficulty of the task is missing the point where the feelings that create this sort of post are coming from.

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    • jali67@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      The point of the post was to say that BC should be for men because “it just makes sense”. You are spewing a bunch of nonsense unrelated to what is being pushed by the meme and I said exactly 0 of those things. I’m already aware. People that never made it beyond high school level topics should really stop.

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• SpaceCadet@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Doing your part in a relationship’s reproductive planning is good partner behavior. This shouldn’t be a game where just one person is on the hook and the other is just along for the ride. Male and Female birth control do not exist as a one or the other dichotomy.

  Except what the meme is saying is not that both partners should work together on birth control. It suggests that it should be on the man instead.

  Meme also suggests that no work is being done on a male contraception pill, when in reality this is being worked on and has been worked on for decades, but there are good biological reasons why this is anything but trivial and certainly much harder than a female contraception pill.

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  • DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Look beyond the meme my friend. When you exclusively start talking about the science of the matter or taking it to mean that the responsibility should be exclusively shifted to men you are ignoring a generation ls deep frustration pregnancy capable people have been experiencing on this subject. You end up implying through negative space that this is a responsibility that should stay in the camp of women- and women have been more under attack for their reproductive choices.

    Women’s frustration with the attitudes of men wanting to control their bodies is valid. What this person is doing is returning a little of that. What other women in these comments are seeing is men react like you are here and that sends an unconscious message that the underlying problem is not one that is going to be addressed because unless the problems they are routinely subjected to specifically targets men, men won’t care.

    Just because someone gives you a certain energy doesn’t mean you should add to it or return it. Intended or not you start making yourself look like an enemy. Sometimes you have to see beyond the conversation being had and realize to what use your commentary is being put. You are falling into the hands of the poster by being made to look like the worst sort of man.

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• ThunderclapSasquatch@startrek.website ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Condoms don’t exist?

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  • DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Barrier protections are great - but have one of the highest perfect use condition failure rates against pregnancy. If you used them under perfect condition correctly every time there’s still a 2% chance of failure every time…

    Typical use however like, people hurrying, using bad technique of application or removal, improper sizing, not inspecting them before use or using expired product or other sundry defects of the condoms themselves means condom’s real life failure rate condition is about 18%.

    Not to knock the condom but it’s not foolproof. Even paired up with the pill which has a decent track record when under perfect use conditions but one of the highest rates of imperfect use because of missed or improperly timed doses you still are rolling the dice.

    Let’s lay some ttrpgs here. Everytime you have sex under that pairing it’s like you are rolling two individual dice. Let’s take the typical use of condoms and the pill. Roll a six sided die to represent the condom and a 10 sided die for the pill. If both die show up with a 1 then you get a pregnancy. Not bad odds until you realize this is repeated every time you have sex.

    Adding another die to the equation in the form of a hormonal birth control for the other partner alters the chances to be more airtight. Also sometimes you as the male partner might want assurance because you generally don’t know of your partner is taking their pills right.

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    • ThunderclapSasquatch@startrek.website ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      That doesn’t change the problem with original post its just more antimale bullshit that this site is flooded with, “Men are the ones that need birth control not women!” “You a man and don’t want to end up baby trapped? Either refuse sex or sterilize yourself.” I’m completely fucking done with it, I grew up a second class citizen in my own family because I was born a man I’m not putting up with any of it anymore! Stop justifying dog whistles and hate

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