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hypnicjerk@lemmy.world 3 weeks agoWhy should they trust some random dude they met on a dating app?
no one says they have to, but they probably shouldn’t, i dunno, go out on a date with them if they can’t.
You act like that’s some crazy fear, but it happens all the fucking time.
call it a crazy thought, but if i were premeditating sexual assault, i probably wouldn’t choose someone who has my name, photos, phone number, and a history of correspondence to show motive. lol
Blueberrydreamer@lemmynsfw.com 3 weeks ago
Do you all have a different idea of what a date is than me or something? The point is to get to know someone you don’t know yet. I guess if you were communicating for weeks beforehand this might seem weird, but that’s making some big assumptions. You’re acting like this woman has requested her friend accompany her for every moment of their ongoing relationship. It’s wild to me to get so insecure about someone not fully trusting you this first time you meet. Trust is built over time, and it’s not a slight against you if someone wants to protect themselves.
And yet, a casual examination of history shows that it happens all the time. And more often than not, charges never get brought up.
Now certainly the perceived frequency is far higher than the actual likelihood, but I don’t blame anyone for not wanting to roll those dice.
hypnicjerk@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
it’s 2025 and the typical use case when you meet someone on an app is to chat online, maybe do some video calls for a week+ to establish rapport and vet one another. by the time you meet up you should have some amount of chemistry and a feel for each other’s values.
if you don’t, the hinged thing to do is to not go out until you do. not to bring a third wheel lol.
apt metaphor considering it’s a stupid fucking game to play. surely you can’t blame anyone for choosing not to play it.