Comment on Has this ever happened to you?
neatchee@lemmy.world 3 weeks agoYou’re right. They’re not fragile and helpless.
You know how women protect themselves? How they demonstrate their strength and ability to help themselves?
By bringing other people when meeting strangers who are statistically likely to be larger and stronger than they are, and 60% more likely to commit a violent crime!
If you can’t figure out the difference between “I distrust unknown men” and “I distrust you” then you have a hell of a lot to learn, dude :/
This is how you get lied to. This is how you wind up shocked when they reveal later that they had a friend nearby. Because they can’t even trust you not to judge them for prioritizing their own safety.
You are the problem.
bizarroland@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You don’t know me at all, so accusing me of being the problem is silly, lol.
Lumisal@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Exactly. They don’t know you at all either.
bizarroland@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I don’t go on dates with women I have not spent time getting to know.
It’s usually a week or more at least of conversation and seeing how we click before we meet up in person.
But that’s a me thing, something you would know if you knew me.
It is not my intent to dunk on you or on anyone else. I would appreciate it if you would return the favor.
Lumisal@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You’re not getting the point.
The point is, we don’t know you.
And this may shock you, but people with bad intentions can just lie about things online. I’m not saying you are some psychopath who acts nice and caring online only to spike a drink and rape in person. Or that you’re an abuser but you can’t catch it yourself. I’m saying people don’t know you, and therefore it can’t be ruled out as a possibility. And so therefore the risk does indeed exist.
Not knowing is the point. Some people will therefore want to take more precautions when getting to know you even better in person, to minimize the risk further. Others won’t think of the risk and just take it, or think it’s not too risky, or not care of the risk, or even might think they can keep themselves safe, and won’t meeting you in person alone in public.
No matter what though, the point is that initially, people don’t know you. It’s not an accusation directed at you, it’s literally just the situation.
neatchee@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Good job projecting your personal preferences and dating strategy onto every other person in the world 👍
Also, good job failing to empathize with people who are regularly lied to and intentionally misled by people with negative intent, because “not all men” or what the fuck ever logical equivalent
neatchee@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Your responses have told me everything I need to know. This one isn’t hard to discern.
The content of your statements are actively perpetuating the problem right now. Therefore, you are the problem.
Not super complicated.