Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life?
GrayBackgroundMusic@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
Would you change your whole personality just because society dictates you must?
Yes. We do what we must to survive. It’s masking. I am many people. I am one person at work, I play the game of being social. I am another at home with family, I play the game of house member. I am another person with friends, I play the game of a buddy.
You decide if you want to follow the rules and earn their prizes or find another system to exist in. It’s far easier said than done. I chose to follow the rules. You might not.
vestmoria@linux.community 2 days ago
don’t you find it tiring? It’s extremely draining to me to fake being something I am not, specially if faking implies I have to act like an extroverted interested in a coworker’s life, including his sexual one.
One I had a coworker go on a full republican rant about how this country is going to sh%t, so… what do I do with people like this? I simply don’t care about their beliefs.
I like how you present this as a choice and not an imposition.
Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 2 days ago
And it’s true. Everything you do has been your choice to do.
But don’t you see the possibilities there? Your choice!
Especially with the “ranting ones” it is so easy to give them peace (because they can hardly ever see through it): just fake a little understanding, listen just a little longer and then finish it by (for example) telling them that it was nice talking and now you are going to continue with your work.
vestmoria@linux.community 2 days ago
I don’t know. To me this “choice” feels like a natural response, a default one, the easy answer. I’m not a patient person.
Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 2 days ago
Even that is a choice.
Oh, come on. Life starts when you get your lazy ass up and try it ; -)