You can do that without calling someone sexist.
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kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 22 hours agoSure, but being an arrogant prick that thinks they’re smarter than anyone else, regardless of gender, is already a thing that should be derided. Having only a single instance of this behavior being aimed at a woman as an example of his arrogance may mistakenly lead one to attribute that to misogyny instead of a general prickishness behavior, sure. But that’s a perfectly understandable assumption to make in that situation and the mistake of calling them the wrong kind of asshole, i feel, is less of a concern than him, indeed, being an asshole.
NotANumber@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 hours ago
moakley@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
Sometimes people are being sexist. Mansplaining is a real thing that happens. You may not see the need for the word because you personally don’t need it, but maybe you can understand that there a lot of people who do need it?
NotANumber@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 hours ago
I mean sure, but you can’t deny it’s misused sometimes. I never said it didn’t happen at all. Stop reading what I didn’t write.
moakley@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
Yes, it’s misused sometimes. And it sounds like you agree that sometimes it’s the right word for the situation.
If a man inaccurately and smugly trying to correct a female astronaut, punctuating it with “Simple thermo”, isn’t the right time to use “mansplaining”, then when would be?
kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
Sure. But it gives the appearance if sexism. Who gives a fuck if he is being an asshole if you mislabeled the kind of asshole he is.
Gustephan@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
You kinda should. The entire value of shaming people is to show a person that somebody else or a group of somebody elses do not approve of their behaviour. If you dont care about being accurate in calling out antisocial behaviour, how do you think the person expressing said antisocial behaviour will understand that interaction? Do you think they’ll be able to understand what they did wrong? Obviously thats not always relevant, some people just want to mudwrestle and they’ll never hear you no matter what you say. It’s worth it to be accurate in case they are the type of person who might remotely consider your words though
kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
If you dont care about being accurate in calling out antisocial behaviour, how do you think the person expressing said antisocial behaviour will understand that interaction?
If they were being sexist and you don’t point that put, wouldn’t that be inaccurate?
Electricd@lemmybefree.net 2 hours ago
So you prefer defaming people just in case? I’m sorry but that’s dumb.
At this point most people explaining things to others, assuming they’re not knowledgeable, can be called racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic…