Comment on Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong?

Diddlydee@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  You not tipping doesn’t teach the business owner, it just hurts those who aren’t in a position to change things and depending on the place, really need help. I’ve known too single moms who were servers to agree with this.

  Lobby your local politicians, seek out places that don’t accept tips but don’t be a cheapskate and act like it’s a noble cause.

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  • Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    There is no convincing them to change their behavior because it’s an emotional reaction they backfill with paper thin logical.

    These are people who, if given a position where they determined employees wages they would pay the bare minimum. The temporarily embarrassed millionaire mindset, class traitors, etc.

    If they were approaching this from a truly moral position they would boycot establishments where tipping is expected. Instead they freeload and feel entitled to a server paid the literal minimum wage.

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    • MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      If they were approaching this from a truly moral position they would boycot establishments where tipping is expected. Instead they freeload and feel entitled to a server paid the literal minimum wage.

      Exactly my thoughts. All this attitude does is punish a probably vulnerable person trying to make a decent living.

      You can seek out non tip places etc but to go to ones that are tip and just give a shitty tip… Ugh.

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  • Diddlydee@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I’m neither being a cheapskate nor acting like it’s a noble cause. Not sure what you read.

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    • MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Not tipping for drinks, 5 or 10 on a meal for 3 or 4 is being cheap. (Even if you manage to all spend only 20 a person, 5 on an 80 bill is less than 10% and such a bad tip that depending on the establishment, it may have cost the server money to feed you.)

      I assumed you were justifying it with “pay your staff so they don’t need to rely on tips.”

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      • Diddlydee@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Thinking a tip is owed for anything is being wildly presumptuous. Nobody is owed a tip, never mind a tip of an arbitrary value below which you ascribe people as cheap. Wise up.

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