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miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
“Education, instilling confidence, and strong parenting will make that totally unecessary.”
Then the commentors can self-examine their fails.
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miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
“Education, instilling confidence, and strong parenting will make that totally unecessary.”
Then the commentors can self-examine their fails.
wjrii@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Yes, lots of emotional brinkmanship in this one. Grandparents can absolutely be toxic enough to warrant no- or low-contact, but I don’t see where OP has indicated they’re close to that point. This is a retrograde joke from the grandpas, but in the US it’s also utterly cliche and doesn’t necessarily imply much. Something along the lines of your suggestion could absolutely be a better option in the early going. You could even make it more casual at first: “Nah, this one’s going to be able to take care of herself. We’re making sure of it.”
warbond@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Personally I wouldn’t wait to get to that point. Had I made it clear early on that “used to be okay” jokes or comments were not, in fact, okay, I probably would have saved myself a lot of heartache.
Confronting loved ones over unacceptable behavior is a necessary skill that takes practice to develop, and I would have been better served if I had done so from the start with my in-laws.
Perhaps I wouldn’t repeat OP verbatim, but there are a lot of ways to get the basic point across.