My parents live 2h drive away and are already guilt tripping me for that drive. While they would come to me 10% of the time, I had to go there 90% of the time. I’m autistic too, my mom drains me within an hour. No joke.
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sploder@lemmy.world 4 months ago[deleted]
LordWiggle@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 4 months ago
Like I said in my reply to this commenter:
Basic rule in life: cut toxic people out. If someone, let alone a fucking PARENT, treats you like that, and especially if they don’t respect or at least acknowledge your neurodivergrnce: just fuck them. Maybe in your case, play along the absolute bare minimum until you can inherit their shit and then smile. At least you were not the idiot anymore.
Friends, or even random people who have nothing to do with you, shouldn’t treat you like that. We often just endure all shit because… Well, because it’s just like that and we never really knew it could and SHOULD be different. Or other silly reasons.
LordWiggle@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Sadly it took me way to long to let go of the constant argument people with a good relationship with their parents tell me: “but they’re your parents dude!”
Exactly, they are, I didn’t chose them, unlike my friends who actually treat me with respect and dignity. Fuck toxic family, fuck toxic people, surround yourself with people who love you for who you are and who you love for who they are. Treating each other with mutual respect. Fuck manipulative narcissistic behavior. Even when they are your parents.
Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 4 months ago
Yes absolutely this. I’m glad that this sentiment is seen more and more in the younger generations. They won’t bend for jobs or abuse that easily like mine (genx) or earlier did and still do.
“But they’re your parents!”. Aaand? “dad” or “mom” are titles earned by love not labels given by birth. Toxic is toxic. Fuck it.
LordWiggle@lemmy.world 4 months ago
They demand to be repaid for raising you. We didn’t chose to be put on this fucking world. They chose kids, it’s their responsibility. We owe them nothing. “But we love you.” Then fucking show it instead of making our lives miserable. Give love, get love back. Give shit, demand love back? That’s not how it works. “But everything we do, we do with good intentions.” Impact weighs heavier than intentions. They prioritize their own wishes over the happiness of their kids. I hate religion, but I like the expression “the road to hell is paved with good intentions”. Something especially boomers will never understand. And sadly many more in this world. Compassion and accepting others for who they are, the way they are and want to be, are sadly rare these days. My goal in life is to show it still exists. And I have many good friends because of it.