Comment on Why is kindness often viewed as a sign of naïveté?

MehBlah@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• compostgoblin@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Why is that?

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  • HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Some people use kindness as deception.

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  • Dagwood_Sanwich@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    It’s a common manipulation tactic and one unintelligent people tend to fall for hook, line, and sinker.

    I use it all the time at work to lull people into a sense of safety to make them relax and fall back into the behavior I want to nail them for.

    Oftentimes a person will do something they’re not supposed to do, but won’t do it around the manager. I’m the assistant manager and for whatever reason, people will do something they’re NOT supposed to do around me and then wonder how the manager keeps finding out. I never let them know it was me and neither does my boss and people simply do not catch on for whatever reason.

    I don’t seek out people to report them, but I do have a duty to my manager and the company to make sure everyone does what they’re supposed to. Even had one idiot stealing drinks and offer me one. Don’t steal, it’s not worth your job.

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    • ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      More like Dagwood_Snitchwich.

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      • Dagwood_Sanwich@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        I do my job. They do their job and there’s no problem. My job is to take over for the manager when he’s not there and to be his extra set of eyes and ears.

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      • DiabolicalBird@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        They’re the assistant manager, it’s literally their job to help manage the team. Don’t do stupid shit in front of management and you won’t get in shit, it’s not rocket science.

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  • MehBlah@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Being overly kind or love bombing is manipulation tactic number one employed by a narcissist.

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    • compostgoblin@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Oh, that makes sense, I suppose.

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