Comment on Socially inept, introverted employees. How do you survive the workplace? Because I’m in dire need of some serious advice.

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dennis5wheel@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

this is an insightful comment:

When you ignore them instead of engaging on every topic, they think you are giving them the silent treatment, which is also associated with children

but they bore me

Give you the mature ones you can learn from, you say. Have you engaged those people?

hell yeah. Up until I was fired I was learning from them.

But I am saying expecting people to care about you, understand you and treat you well, while you make no effort to do the same, is completely naive and hypocritical.

I disagree: to extroverts this comes naturally, effortless whereas I have to consciously engage and listen to a boring story. To me this is like a second job of top of my duties. Not worth it. I don’t want them to treat me well, I want them to treat me professionally.

What also bothers me is the expectation of having to be best buddies with everyone there. I like choosing my friends. I cannot fake.

I appreciate your comments because you seem genuine but this answer is going to be downvoted into oblivion.

As a matter of fact I don’t believe a learning focused person like me, relatively new to the ER, can fake being extroverted. These behaviors slow me down.

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