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Comment on Socially inept, introverted employees. How do you survive the workplace? Because I’m in dire need of some serious advice.

pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

Here’s some ways I can relate:

I would rather not talk unnecessarily at work.
But I am aware that I occasionally come across as rude, abrasive or disdainful.

I found that people began to forgive my occasional accidental rudeness after I built up habits for myself to proactively communicate to others that I like them.

Now I have a whole set of habits that don’t take me much energy to apply, and make others feel likes by me. It helps tremendously when I later put my foot in my mouth, which I still sometimes do.

I don’t mean to imply that is your situation. It was my situation, at a time when I felt as you do now.

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spankmonkey@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

I thank people for doing the bare minimum as demanded by their job.

I do as well, because doing the bare minimum is still doing their job!

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- Nikls94@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Yup. And the price for doing more is: more work. And then they fire people, and then you have to do even more work.
  
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  - spankmonkey@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yeah, although sometimes it is beneficial to do extra work if they promote from within. Fairly rare in my experience, but when they do it is worth it as the farther up the chain the less anyone pays attention to how busy you look as long as the work gets done!
    
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dennis5wheel@programming.dev ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

The habits I developed

holy %#@$, you re a good actor. I’m a terrible one and have no patience for that. Kudos to you for being so good faking it I guess? I’m too transparent

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- pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Haha. Thanks!
  
  I try to apply Wil Weaton’s law as consistently as I can.
  
  Also I forget who said it but I ask myself “would am asshole say that?” and if so, I try to say something else.
  
  The faking it part is weird, since it applies to everyone I interact with, for different reasons:
  
  Coworkers - I just need to earn money to buy stuff. Plus, they’re just in the same boat.
  
  Staff at places I shop - they’re just trying to get by, and don’t need my crap to make their day worse.
  
  Actual friends - they probably don’t realize how much I appreciate them, so every little bit helps.
  
  I guess my philosophy is we’re all going through some shit, so I hope I’m making it a little easier where I can.
  
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