My half sister didnt know her step father wasnt her real father. She found out when she was 19 because another half sister of ours (my father got around) found her on Facebook.
It shattered her.
I was told when I was 5 years old by my mom I was adopted by my step father. She did it in a shitty way, (during their messy kids in the middle divorce) but at least she was honest.
Definitely prefer the way I found out, to the way my sister did. Finding out young, I think it was easier for me to adapt, and have support. My sister still doesn’t have a great relationship with her mom and step father, and it’s been some years.
Kids don’t like it when their parents lie to them, who knew.
Taleya@aussie.zone 3 weeks ago
We’re not dealing with kids though, these nutters want every damned adult unaware of their adoption status to have their worlds mandatorily blown apart.
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Idk, I’ve 3 siblings not raised by this man, and we all would rather know, than not. Honestly, I feel, is important.
I’d be interested to hear from someone who wishes they didnt ever find out they were adopted. Im sure people like that exist.
Should the government get involved? I personally don’t think they should, but, an interesting social concept to discuss.
Taleya@aussie.zone 3 weeks ago
Thisbisn’t a thought experiment , these are people’s lives
Psychologists are pointing out the massive damage this would cause just dumping on people as adults without their request “Hey, you’re adopted” and for…what, exactly?
Their recommendations to build a framework to make it easier for people who want to know to find out is far saner.