Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me?
CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world 3 weeks agoNo. You’re being a poor communicator. Here and with this man. A date not explicitly being called a date is very common, you have made assumptions with this, and seem to be pushing back on most folks saying you need to communicate better. Read the room and realize you’re inexperienced.
arumi@endlesstalk.org 3 weeks ago
So should I just ask him directly that why is he asking me to hangout with him one on one? What are his intentions? Will he not be offended?
null@lemmy.nullspace.lol 3 weeks ago
Literally yes.
If he’s offended by open, clear communication, that’s a good sign you shouldn’t continue trying to be friends anyways.
arumi@endlesstalk.org 3 weeks ago
Why should I not continue being friends with him and only meet on social occasions where our other mutual friends are also present, just like the old times? Breaking up a friendship over nothing?
naught101@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I would say someone getting offended by you communicating is not “nothing”. At least it would be a problem for me.
null@lemmy.nullspace.lol 3 weeks ago
Him being offended enough for it to be a problem by you asking a clear, good faith question isn’t “over nothing”.
Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yes. Clear communication is important.
CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Correct. He may react in any number of ways and you cannot control that. A normal healthy reaction will be an open conversation. They also might call you a bitch. They might react cool now only to try again in 2 weeks. This is part of dating unfortunately.
arumi@endlesstalk.org 3 weeks ago
Very sad and bad situation
CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yours? No, it’s not sad at all. Learning to communicate is a necessity.
The fact that many people are immature assholes, sure, a bit sad.