Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me?

• CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  No. You’re being a poor communicator. Here and with this man. A date not explicitly being called a date is very common, you have made assumptions with this, and seem to be pushing back on most folks saying you need to communicate better. Read the room and realize you’re inexperienced.

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  • arumi@endlesstalk.org ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    So should I just ask him directly that why is he asking me to hangout with him one on one? What are his intentions? Will he not be offended?

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    • null@lemmy.nullspace.lol ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      So should I just ask him directly that why is he asking me to hangout with him one on one?

      Literally yes.

      Will he not be offended?

      If he’s offended by open, clear communication, that’s a good sign you shouldn’t continue trying to be friends anyways.

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      • arumi@endlesstalk.org ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Why should I not continue being friends with him and only meet on social occasions where our other mutual friends are also present, just like the old times? Breaking up a friendship over nothing?

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    • Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Yes. Clear communication is important.

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    • CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Correct. He may react in any number of ways and you cannot control that. A normal healthy reaction will be an open conversation. They also might call you a bitch. They might react cool now only to try again in 2 weeks. This is part of dating unfortunately.

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      • arumi@endlesstalk.org ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Very sad and bad situation

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• protist@mander.xyz ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I don’t think that at all, I have great friends of both genders. My point is you need to communicate with him, because you came in here thinking it was probably a date and asking us whether he wanted to sleep with you.

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  • arumi@endlesstalk.org ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I came here to get advice. Isn’t that what people do in such platforms?

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    • protist@mander.xyz ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      if your reason for going out with him is to be friends, communicate that

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      • arumi@endlesstalk.org ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        He never asked for a reason. Bringing it up myself out of nowhere would make him think I am narcissistic who assumed he’s in love with me. Or maybe I am just overthinking

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