Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me?
protist@mander.xyz 2 weeks ago
Is there any comfortable way to bring up this topic without making me sound like a narcissist who assumed a guy wants to sleep with her just because he asked her out🥲.
I’m less interested in knowing his motivation than I am in your motivation for saying yes and going out with him. Whatever is motivating you to go out with him, that is what you need to communicate, rather than just saying “I’m not going to sleep with you.”
arumi@endlesstalk.org 2 weeks ago
He never explicitly mentioned it’s a date, I didn’t see a reason of saying no to meet as friends
protist@mander.xyz 2 weeks ago
There you go, if your reason for going out with him is to be friends, communicate that
arumi@endlesstalk.org 2 weeks ago
I don’t want to assume things, i thought it’s a date but I wasn’t sure. I have all reasons to believe it’s not a date unless he specifically mentions it. He only said if i am free on Saturday, let’s grab lunch
CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
No. You’re being a poor communicator. Here and with this man. A date not explicitly being called a date is very common, you have made assumptions with this, and seem to be pushing back on most folks saying you need to communicate better. Read the room and realize you’re inexperienced.
protist@mander.xyz 2 weeks ago
I don’t think that at all, I have great friends of both genders. My point is you need to communicate with him, because you came in here thinking it was probably a date and asking us whether he wanted to sleep with you.