Comment on Peter Thiel’s bestie going mask off
grrgyle@slrpnk.net 3 weeks agoFascinating. I never understood why the cuckolding fetish (fixation? obsession?) came with such a strong overlap with, I guess, race play? Feels like a charitable way to put it.
I didn’t believe it at first, but any quick web search will show that cuckolding largely is about the races of the people involved.
Which makes a lot more sense if seen through the framework you just described.
LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
There’s also overlap with power narcissism (“might makes right”, nearly always ties in to physical narcissism and intellectual narcissism), money narcissism (classism), gender narcissism (misogyny), and savior narcissism (the stuff you see in charities and churches, evangelicalism).
And more ofc. There’s no limit to delusions someone can have.
All of that overlaps because there is intersectionality of narcissitic abusers, who then look for victims who safisfy that. We focus a lot of intersectionality of victims and not their abusers. But it’s why Ted Bundy picked young white attractive college girls with long straight dark hair to attack - all of those aspects represent his own narcissistic delusions, they are not the fault or problem of the victim, but of the abuser projecting onto the victim. They look for perfect dolls or teddy bears to project onto. Ted Bundy was otherwise perfectly safe to Anne Rice and most people he encountered because she wasn’t someone he could fully project onto - his narcissistic delusion enforcement wasn’t triggered by her.
So for eg it isn’t so much that Native American women are more likely to be murdered because they are Native women, but that there’s a widespread narcissistic belief set that murdering Native American women is not a concern, so much so that police and media and much of the public ignore it or actively aid it. And now we see this issue magnifying with the deportations - where are all the women? Latinos are just Native Americans who were colonized by Spanish speakers, after all.
But when we focus on abusers instead of the abused, the abusers realize they will get cut off from supply and they have a huge pushback for control.
And yeah it all ties into sexual stuff too
grrgyle@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
Never really thought of narcissisms in such a plural and mundane way. Is this a school of abnormal psychology or something?
Interesting lens to look through. I’ve always been a sucker for this kind of transactional analysis.
LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
There is something called “collective narcissism,” and a lot of this info is in various studies and works. Here’s one study about gender narcissism: link.springer.com/article/…/s11199-020-01193-3