I really think you nailed it and that folks here are either kids or never grew out of the high school mentality. It seems like they conflate trust issues with openness, and that you would only share with your spouse because your spouse doesn’t trust you.
My wife has my location. My wife has had my location when I’ve gone to bachelor parties and done bachelor party activities. I doubt she looked at it. When I came home, I told her about things we did because we take an interest in one another’s lives.
It really all comes down to efficiency. She’s an hour from home and I need to start cooking dinner soon? I’ll go grab the kids now and come home and get going. It just helps plan days and nights.
naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
Yes we’re teenagers. We’ve been married 15 years, ceremony was when we were three.
Privacy is important, have you never kept a diary? Do you film therapy sessions lest your partner not know what you discussed? Shit with the door open? You don’t need justification for wanting privacy, you need privacy so when you have a good reason for it nothing looks different.
What if there is? Get help, that’s an insane fear to live with. If I am unconscious there’s nothing to do anyway, the hospital or whatever will find her details in my purse and call. What the fuck am I going to do, sit there watching the dot on the map and calling 000 if it stops moving? You are a lunatic, we have society to take care of us while we’re out and about and emergency beacons if you’re like camping beyond the black stump or sailing the Pacific.
SonOfAntenora@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
If there’s an emergency it will be known regardless. Levels of paranoia that are not justified; how many emergencies have you been in where an Internet connected device is so important in the shortest amount of time? Or at all. No. You might need a phone. But not an app in particular.
And for long term emergencies an fm/am radio is a better tool than the Internet.
Usernume@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I imagine this form of abuse is done by sociopaths that convinced their traumatised partners this is actually a good thing.
All the people in this thread that they do it for years amd it’s normal? Sociopaths.
naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
My wife has done courses on warning signs for abusive relationships as part of some mental health first aid certification stuff.
2 biiiiiig red flags are insisting on surveillance and not letting people have separate finances. We have a combined account sure, and also pocket money accounts and whatever else. For all I know she’s set up a trust. I mean I don’t think she has because she’d probably tell me but she has the freedom to do so.
yeahiknow3@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 hours ago
You sound like a teenager, no offense.
naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 hours ago
Very hinged lemmy comment.
yeahiknow3@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 hours ago
I seriously doubt any of the losers in this thread have been in a loving relationship before. Fucking nuts.