Comment on Women Dating Safety App 'Tea' Breached, Users' IDs Posted to 4chan
gnu@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
People sign up to app intended to share personal information about others without their permission, end up having their own personal information shared without permission - the irony is impressive.
I think it depends on people's intent and purpose for using this service. I'm overall not a fan of someone taking and sharing pictures of me without my consent, or making claims that can't be defended...
The group of women legitimately using it for safety is fine, in a general sense.
The group of women using it as gossip and entertainment is not.
Considering that “tea” is common slang for gossip I’m not convinced there was many of the latter.
Given that the app name is slang for gossip, you’re not convinced there were many women using it for gossip?
Thanks I fixed it
It makes sense using it for safety, but I would worry about whether all the information on there is accurate. Most of the feedback on the app is probably negative, I doubt anyone would really post anything on Tea that’s positive about their former partner. But people like to believe they are in the right. Someone who got in a fight with their partner might post something on Tea that isn’t accurate, but makes them feel better since they can spin the story how they want, and make the other person at fault. However, unlike regular social media, the person being attacked by their partner on Tea has no idea that it happened, and no way to refute what was said. It promotes the opposite of any type of communication between partners after a fight or breakup. It promotes safety, but at the same time it promotes some toxicity in relationships. What would you think if you knew that if your got into a disagreement with your partner that you could end up posted on this app, without any way of arguing back?
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
At first I was going to call bullshit because I thought you were exaggerating and being ridiculous.
Nope. That’s the app. “Anonymous” sharing of pictures and info of other people. Presumably without their permission. That’s fucked up.
blarghly@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah. I mean, I get it. The concept of the app makes sense. And I would be that, on average, it is/would be used for good.
On the other hand, as a guy, the idea that people are out there sharing reviews of me as a person on the open internet, and I have no way of knowing this, is deeply unsettling. Like, I haven’t done anything wrong - just the whole concept feels very gross.
Donkter@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Especially because the app is called “tea”, like the slang term for gossip. The letter of the intention may have been good but the whole thing is toxic.
InFerNo@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
You could ask someone you know to register and share the login, it’s a flawed concept. There’s probably a bunch of partners in there who didn’t even know their boyfriend used their info to create an account to check on themselves.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
My problem is how it’s implemented.
An app where you simply post a name and a location, and then people can DM you with their experiences directly, would be a lot less invasive.
outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Sucks it’s necessary.
You want women to not just assume youre an insane violent rape monster? Shit like this is how we know.
Or you could, like, fix your entire gender; idk.
blarghly@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
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JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
Can’t tell if you’re being transphobic to trans femmes or supportive to femme leaning enbies.
Feathercrown@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Bruh
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
That’s terrible.
Have an upvote.