Comment on ‘If I switch it off, my girlfriend might think I’m cheating’: inside the rise of couples location sharing

the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• innermachine@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  My wife always has my location. I regularly go out for hours on my motorcycle and I’ll tell her I’m going for a hour ride and get lost in the woods for 3. Years ago I had to call her to pick me up after a truck decided to go left in front of me and shattered my arm into 4 pieces. Caller her from the hospital bed high as fuck on morphine. She has my location so if I stop responding for hours she can make sure I didn’t wind up in a medical center LOL.

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  • the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    That is entirely different than suspecting you of cheating every moment she doesn’t have eyes on you.

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    • HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Some of the arguments for mutual tracking relate to safety, not cheating.

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      • Dozzi92@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        None of the arguments for sharing location relate to cheating. If you are worried your partner is cheating, nothing will assuage your concerns, that is a you and them problem. I don’t think for one second my wife would cheat on me, and not because I’m the greatest thing since sliced bread or anything, she’s just a good, honest person, and when we have things come up in our relationship she talks to me.

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      • douglasg14b@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        For real and there’s so many people in this thread who have only had toxic relationships or are in toxic relationships, projecting insecurities and lack of trust onto others who may not have these problems.

        I don’t think this is a good idea for most people, but for some it makes sense and we need to remember that everyone is in different situations.

        When you have a spouse that travels a lot, anxiety can get pretty high.

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      • groet@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        I think most do. Everybody here only looks at the “controlling, jealous partner” and never at the actually “loving, healthy, concerned partner”.

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      • the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        There was no need for you to re-state my point.

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  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Sure, then maybe enable it before those rides and disable afterward, and send her a text when you’d like her to keep an eye on it.

    Keeping it on all the time has tons of potential privacy-related problems since phones a aren’t perfect.

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    • innermachine@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Meh. My location sharing makes no difference to who I DONT want to see my location, your always being watched if u have a smart phone anyways 🤷 turning it on and off is too much effort to be bothered, I got nothing to hide from her.

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• uhmbah@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  This. If your partner is jealous, you’re not the problem. If they can’t work through it with you, walk.

  People with trust issues are exhausting. Make sure they’re worth it without losing yourself.

  Signed, Experienced

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  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    My SO gets super jealous/anxious, probably because of all the horror stories in the news. Having access to my location would only make that worse, because then every time I drop a coworker off at home or something and forget to tell my SO, they’ll get super suspicious.

    I’d much rather work off trust than need to explain every little deviation from my normal schedule just to avoid some anxiety.

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