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• LandedGentry@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  When your kid has behavioral issues that start spiraling out of control, it can put a ton of strain on you and your family. It canbecome all consuming. You can’t send them to hang out with friends, you can’t send them to school, you can’t do anything without them likely lashing out or otherwise causing issues that disrupt everyone’s life constantly. That does not mean the kid is doing something wrong, the reality is just that it can be incredibly difficult to deal with day in and day out for.

  At some point you’ll look for anyone that says “I can fix this. We can teach your kids what they need to learn.”

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  • undeffeined@lemmy.ml ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Thank you for taking the time to write that. I can understand those circumstances, what I can’t wrap my head around is the methods described. Children need acceptance and love, on top of discipline; not punishement.

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    • LandedGentry@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      That’s the other twisted side of all of this. Most of the time, it’s parents who think they are doing what is best for theirchildren. They truly want them to be happy and are just doing the best they can. These horrible organizations suck up their money and prey on their hope

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    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      American culture fetishizes “tough love” often at the expense of empathy. Its why our culture bounces between “beat children and make them work” and “we’ve tried nothing and we’re all out of ideas”. These institutions peddle the idea that parents are too soft on bad kids and since it fits our cultural narratives parents and judges often fall for it. This leads to overcorrection (“just talk it through with kids without punishment or consequences”) that reinforces the narrative.

      There’s also this idea that teenagers arent really people with rights yet. Like, its insane to me that one can force a 16 year old into such a place against their will. They aren’t adults yet, but they’re close and deserve basic rights. But we have a strong cultural feeling of pater potestas when it comes to underage people.

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