I’d say an age gap could be creepy in itself in some cases, like 18-30 years old or something in those areas. Not the case here though, at least not in my eyes. And really agree on the creepy comes from behaviour.
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FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 4 weeks ago
Being creepy isn’t that simple
Creepy is how you behave, the way you carry yourself and treat other people
An age gap isn’t creepy in itself, it can be creepy, but it doesn’t have to be
Takapapatapaka@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Ledericas@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
I knew a friend who dated 17years older than she is, the mom was pissed and I thought it was a little weird and creepy, a 29 at the time dating someone 46yo is a big range. It’s a little creepy, but not like crazy like he’s been grooming her.
medem@lemmy.wtf 4 weeks ago
This is the one thing that’s hardly ever mentioned in the whole age gap debate, though I would add that there are constellations that are creepy by default. Being a 35+ old man, I feel that I’m at kind of a landmark age where dating someone 20 years younger than me would be gross, let alone illegal in most jurisdictions, so the ‘it depends on your behaviour and intentions’ argument doesn’t really hold. In contrast, I can very much imagine dating a 55 year old woman - and no, it’s not a MILF fetish. So in the end BOTH the intentions/behaviour AND Gender AND actual age gap do matter IMHO.
FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 4 weeks ago
Gender matters?
GTFOH with that shit
I didn’t disagree with you until that point
medem@lemmy.wtf 4 weeks ago
Can you explain why you find the suggestion so outrageous ? I’m not advocating a 35 year old woman dating a 15 year old boy. I’m only saying that biology matters.
GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
I can’t think of a worse way to frame this discussion. There are significant differences between a 35 yo man dating a 15 yo girl and a 50 yo man dating a 30 yo woman, legality being just part of it. Swapping the genders doesn’t make it better.
fabulous@feddit.uk 4 weeks ago
FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 4 weeks ago
I’m in my latter forties, and I find the world of dating to be pretty crazy. In the US, things are even more bizarre
I’m bloody glad that I found a woman mad enough to love me a little while ago!
I wish you all the luck in the world
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Hahaha okay so let me bring you up to speed on the modern dating scene:
More than half of young men aren’t even trying to get laid anymore because of how fucking preposterous the dating scene is. Let that sink in.
Your prospective date heard one of her friends say “Oh! You should go out with my divorced dad!” and she’s actually entertaining this possibility. Why didn’t she find a man closer to her own age? What’s wrong with her?
What does success even look like here? For her or you?
Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
You’re actually making a solid point there, the fact this dude’s daughter is trying to set him up with a friend, and the friend thinks this is an idea worth considering, is quite bizarre.
Not necessarily wrong, just bizarre.