Go to the hardware store and pick out light bulbs. It’s annoying because there are so many different kinds. You’ll end up standing there and talking to several people over a 15 minute period, commiserating over lightbulbs mostly. Some of them will be attractive women. There’s your jumping off point.
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green_copper@kbin.earth 8 hours ago
But what is the alternative, huh? Going outside and approaching someone (in a non-harassing way)? That would be madness.
mctoasterson@reddthat.com 3 hours ago
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 hours ago
Can’t confirm, last time I picked out lightbulbs I dawdled for quite a long time and didn’t talk with anyone.
- green_copper@kbin.earth 1 hour ago
The probability of success of that method is directly proportional of the average talkativeness of the local culture. If you are somewhere where everyone is commonly minding their own business, then yea, good luck :/
burido@lemmy.world 7 hours ago happy roomba day!
- green_copper@kbin.earth 7 hours ago
Thanks, I guess :D Can you explain the roomba joke to me?
- burido@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
- green_copper@kbin.earth 4 hours ago
Ahh, you one of these fancy people who own a multi-story roomba xD
To be fair “non-harassing way” is a bit subjective. I’ve seen dudes have success with methods that I would consider “harassing”. I’ve also seen guys condemned as creeps for approaching women at what Id consider a reasonable place and time.
And the loudest most unreasonable people on both sides dominate the narrative online, which makes the whole topic seem more fraught tonyoung guys than it really is in real life.
The truth is one person’s “playful teasing” is another person’s “harassment”. You have to develop you sense of empathy and feel it out on a case by case basis. Pretending this black and white doesn’t help anybody.
Yep; and this is a big problem of mine. As I'm quite pessimistic my default assumption is that a simple greeting is likely to result in a negative reaction.
A similar problem is approaching individuals / groups (for whatever reason) in general: are they free to talk to or is that a closed group who would feel bothered? Hard to see from the outside.
I agree. And as long as a no is respected promptly, no harm should be done by trying. But tell this my anxiety...
boobookittyfrick@lemmy.zip 4 hours ago
Yeah I just don’t talk to women out of fear of being sued