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Apepollo11@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

One thing that’s overlooked is the catalyst for all these changes is the same thing. Massive massive sleep deprivation.

Honestly, to start with, some days you’ll be surviving on two hours of sleep. And it takes years to get back to feeling ‘normal’.

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huquad@lemmy.ml ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Shifts! Once my wife and I got the hang of things. We started taking shifts at night so we could get at least 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Game changer

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dingus@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Sleep deprivation is literally a torture technique. I am thankful that people do choose to try to raise children with this in mind, but it just sounds like literal torture to me. Even with people who tell me how much they supposedly love raising kids, I see the immense pain and suffering that they go through literally all the time.

My guess is that some powerful hormones must be released or something after having a child to make people think that they are enjoying their life even though an outside observer can view their immense suffering.

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- pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  
  My guess is that some powerful hormones must be released or something after having a child to make people think that they are enjoying their life even though an outside observer can view their immense suffering.
  
  It’s partly that, and partly that the brain needs sleep too form memories and to think things through to conclusion, so we’re all a little delusional and don’t really remember how hard the early part was.
  
  (I adore my kids!)
  
  Pro tip: smell their heads as often as possible. There’s all kinds of healthy chemical bonding that comes from that delightful fresh baby head smell.
  
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  - dingus@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Lmaoo my coworker always talks about the baby smell too. I find it funny because I have never sniffed a baby hahaha
    
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