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CeeBee_Eh@lemmy.world 3 weeks agobut If you are putting children on a leash, you are mostly seen as a bad parent and probably you are.
100% you aren’t a parent.
I’ve never put a leash on my kid because I didn’t frequent extremely busy crowds. But leashes are great for kids. It gives them the feeling of self autonomy to explore, while keeping them safe.
Anyone who says they’re bad has never experienced turning your back for 0.68 seconds and then realizing your kid is already gone off somewhere. They are fast.
OTINOKTYAH@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
Again, it’s humiliating for children. Children are Not animals, and as parent it’s you fucking job to Look after your offspring. A leash will not Help you, when you are on the phone and the children runs into danger.
Also i know that they are fast. I have two of them, one of them running like hell ;)
CeeBee_Eh@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
A two year old didn’t get embarrassed.
Parents get tired. In fact, most parents have chronic levels of sleep deprivation which impairs things like concentration, reflexes, ability to pay attention, etc. Then you have parents who might be working multiple jobs, be feeding with health issues that affect sleep, etc. A leash would make that job to keep kids safe much easier.
And I’m not sure how it works in your mind. No leash equals the parent keeping the kid safe, even though not every situation can allow a parent to keep 100% focus on the child, but using a leash the parent suddenly isn’t paying attention?
How do you think that works?
Should a parent not give the kid a helmet when learning to ride a bike then also? Does using a helmet mean the parent isn’t keeping the kid safe?
I’d like to know your thoughts on not utilizing safety equipment with children. I’m very curious.
Do you… do you not understand how a leash works?
medgremlin@midwest.social 3 weeks ago
The age group of children that gets put on leashes doesn’t have the brain development to feel shame or humiliation. Their brains have literally not developed the cortex that does that yet.
From the age of about 2 to 4, my Dad made a harness out of climbing webbing for me and clipped the leash to a carabineer on his belt when we were out and about. We were constantly going to places like Haight St in San Francisco and hiking on the sea cliffs in Santa Cruz. I 100% would have gotten myself killed without that leash because I was very curious about the fishies in the ocean at the bottom of that 50-100ft high cliff, and my Dad was wrangling me and my sibling by himself while Mom was at work.
I’m pretty sure there’s a picture somewhere of me leaning over a cliff being held back by the leash because I was a rambunctious little gremlin that was about 20 years off from having a fully developed frontal lobe.
Taco2112@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That’s your opinion. I was a leashed child at one point in my life and I don’t care at all. It was pre cell phones so that argument doesn’t work either. It’s not about the parent not wanting to deal with their kid, it’s about them not wanting the kid to bother other people and to prevent toddlers from running off in large crowds.
maniclucky@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Not a parent.
Of course it will help in that case. It’s literally what it’s there for. Also, the age where you can get away with leashing your kids is also the age where they aren’t forming a ton of memories or where they have no social context to be embarrassed. They may be embarrassed when they’re older, but that’s just life.
Stop inflicting your feelings into random children.
foggy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You’ve got two huh.
Hey everyone check out this parenting expert over here! They’ve raised two kids 😲
That’s basically 100% of human behavior, so yeah. Wow. Leashes? Can’t fathom a situation that would warrant it. You’re right. Everyone who has ever used a leash is correcting for a problem you’re very experienced in. After all, you have two kids.
CeeBee_Eh@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’ve met too many people like this.
Your kid is having an issue with something? “Well my kids never did that!” But said in a snide way that implies you’re doing something wrong.
OTINOKTYAH@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
I never Made my Point about, that i have children. It was only to answer the post before that i “100% don’t have children”. It really doesn’t Matter If you have children or not
foggy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You either: Lied about having kids
Or
Are a bad parent.
I don’t care which it is, Im just letting you know that you’ve made this much clearer than you realize.