How long have you known each other? How long have you dated? Do you know her family? Do you like her family? Are you both located in the same location? Is her family ok with the age difference? Is this a serious relationship where you see yourself settling down?
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iluvit@reddthat.com 4 days ago[deleted]
LilDumpy@lemmy.world 4 days ago
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Things that might be helpful:
Also please don’t take Internet advice at face value on such delicate topics, we can show you what to keep in mind, but you are best suited to decide and I’m sure whatever you will decide, you’ll
iluvit@reddthat.com 4 days ago
lath@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Using the imaginary setting I’ve created in my mind based on the information presented in your comment, I’d say the invitation has two main support beams holding it up, eventual marriage and becoming a doctor.
This would be an investment into your future as a couple and their possible grandchildren. So my advice would be to not take it for granted.
The pressure to perform well in both professional pursuits and familial has broken many. And the closer you’ll get to a deadline, the higher the tension you’ll suffer. As such, the support has to be mutual.
If you go in, go in as a family member. Participate, help out. Do not detach from them. This will help redistribute the mounting pressure.
If you stay out, do not isolate yourself. You’ll end up dumping your frustrations on your partner and spiral downward towards self-defeat.
The years ahead will be quite complicated. But if you stay true to your passion, something will come out of it even if it won’t be what you expect.
Good luck, regardless of your choice.
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Thank you the kitten was my main concern :P