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Yermaw@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• iluvit@reddthat.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

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  • hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Things that might be helpful:

    • how long y’all been together?
    • what’s her relationship to her family?
    • how many people and how big is the place?
    • (when) do you intend to get your own place?
    • what country and would you be able to afford your own place soon?
    • are there specific reasons you would move in other than “she lives there and we wanna be together”?
    • how far is the move from your place currently?
    • can you find me an image of a kitten? I love those.

    Also please don’t take Internet advice at face value on such delicate topics, we can show you what to keep in mind, but you are best suited to decide and I’m sure whatever you will decide, you’ll

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    • iluvit@reddthat.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

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      • lath@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Using the imaginary setting I’ve created in my mind based on the information presented in your comment, I’d say the invitation has two main support beams holding it up, eventual marriage and becoming a doctor.

        This would be an investment into your future as a couple and their possible grandchildren. So my advice would be to not take it for granted.

        The pressure to perform well in both professional pursuits and familial has broken many. And the closer you’ll get to a deadline, the higher the tension you’ll suffer. As such, the support has to be mutual.

        If you go in, go in as a family member. Participate, help out. Do not detach from them. This will help redistribute the mounting pressure.

        If you stay out, do not isolate yourself. You’ll end up dumping your frustrations on your partner and spiral downward towards self-defeat.

        The years ahead will be quite complicated. But if you stay true to your passion, something will come out of it even if it won’t be what you expect.

        Good luck, regardless of your choice.

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      • hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Thank you the kitten was my main concern :P

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  • LilDumpy@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    How long have you known each other? How long have you dated? Do you know her family? Do you like her family? Are you both located in the same location? Is her family ok with the age difference? Is this a serious relationship where you see yourself settling down?

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