Comment on Are there any Lemmy/Mbin instances by women for women?
AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works 5 days agoyep. the difference is, when women have been disadvantaged they tend to create spaces and pathways to talk about or change it. unfortunately a lot of men tend to isolate, even though they are not alone. then when they something about a women receiving help through programs created by women for women their feelings of being abandoned by the system come up again. it’s just another way that toxic masculinity hurts everyone. the fix for that is of course feminism, but it’s a pretty massive barrier for most men to accept that.
Cryophilia@lemmy.world 5 days ago
Men don’t always isolate by choice. There’s a large cultural aversion to creating and sustaining male-only spaces, and that aversion comes from all sectors.
Every college campus has a women’s club but if you try making a men’s club you’ll probably get reprimanded.
AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
every college campus has men’s clubs their called fraternities
Cryophilia@lemmy.world 5 days ago
You know that’s not what I’m talking about.
AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
then I guess I’m not sure what you’re really talking about then.
it goes back to my original point though. if you feel there should be those spaces, no one is stopping you from making them. there were a few subreddits I used to browse (maybe it was mensrights or menslib or something similar) that was super respectful and held genuinely helpful and important conversations about the issues men face. trust me, absolutely no one will stop you from making those spaces. if those spaces you’re trying to create aren’t respectful, then yes I imagine people might not like that.
drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world 5 days ago
yeah, thats the problem. The only mens places are altright infested shit holes. Its liftest mens places that are discouraged.