Comment on Brother denies using firmware updates to brick printers with third-party ink

• bearboiblake@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  feelings are important, though? if i can avoid hurting someone and all it costs me is saying blocklist instead of blacklist, that seems like an obvious slam dunk

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  • GaMEChld@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Your feelings are yours to manage. You say why hurt someone when you can avoid it. I say why get hurt in the first place? Everyone has feelings about everything. No feeling is any more valid than any other feeling.

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    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Exactly. Don’t go out of your way to hurt others, and don’t go out of your way to be hurt. It has nothing to do with race, and it has been used for hundreds of years.

      If someone gets fired while sunburnt, should they be offended by the term “pink slip”? No, that’s ridiculous, because the color in the terminology has nothing to do with race. That’s exactly the same with blacklist and whitelist.

      Now, if there was a racist underpinning there, I’d understand pushing for terminology changes. But there isn’t, so stop finding new ways to be offended.

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      • GaMEChld@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        You know what I never understood? When someone says “I’m offended by that,” society generally accepts that as valid. But if I say “I’m offended that you’re offended.” That’s somehow invalid.

        As if I cannot have an emotional reaction to being misunderstood or misinterpreted. People just assume bad faith and contrarian behavior instead of trying to figure out where the other person is coming from.

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    • bearboiblake@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      so you think other people should take responsibility for something they can’t control, but you should have no responsibility for something you can control?

      you can’t stop yourself from feeling sad, but you can stop yourself from doing something that makes someone else sad

      having no concern for the feelings of others is just really irrational and selfish imo

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      • GaMEChld@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Emotions aren’t inherently positive or negative. It’s what you do with the emotions that has actual moral substance.

        Here, let’s look at it this way.

        I say something, and it made you sad. However, you know full well my intent was not to make you sad. Despite this, you use your sadness to guilt me about the thing. So now I feel sad that you are purposefully misinterpreting my meaning.

        I am offended that you are offended. Explain to my why my feeling is invalid and yours is valid.

        Anyone can feel bad about anything.

        “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

        I’m not saying go around purposely making people sad. I’m saying don’t make your sadness my issue.

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