Comment on HELP! How do I help educate my son about his body when I know nothing about boys??

can@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

• SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  And wait for an answer. Don’t just knock then immediately walk in. I’m nearly fifty and I’m still traumatized by this.

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  • scsi@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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    • shasta@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Yeah about that last point, it is easy to have sex with someone just because they also want it. However, you may regret it afterwards because maybe they want an actual relationship and you just wanted the sex because your hormones were making that decision for you. Or if you do it with a close friend, it can strain that relationship.

      It’s always best to decide what you plan to do before going into any situation that could potentially turn sexual. And stick to the plan. If something unexpected comes up, try to find a way to step away for a few minutes, let the hormones cool, and try to decide what you really want. It’s the only way to be sure you’re making a decision based on more than the instinct to have sex with everything.

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    • aeternum@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I grew up in an entirely female family. I was literally the only boy. So I didnt get any sex talks from anyone. It sucked big time. I really really really wish someone had done it. I had no one to teach me about guy stuff.

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• SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Absolutely.

  Sonetimes he wears headphones in his room and I do have to crack the door to have him respond. Is that okay?

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  • can@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Emphatically no.

    Text him or something.

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  • Plagiatus@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Tbh if he masturbates with headphones in the same house as his mother, it’s an important lesson to learn to always keep one ear open for potential knocks. 🤭

    Maybe warn him about that so he can avoid the potential trauma

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  • 001Guy001@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    just making sure you’ve seen this nested comment

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  • tyler@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Maybe put a “doorbell” with a light in his room that he can see.

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    • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Might go low-tech and just stick my arm in with a flashlight or something.

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      • can@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Does his door have a lock?

        I think maybe it should.

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