The correct thing to do with a swing and a miss like that is to apologize. If there’s no apology, it’s the asshole thinking they have an actual excuse.
Comment on why do people say annoying/rude stuff and then tell you “it was a joke!”
xmunk@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
Depends. Sometimes they take a bad swing at a joke and realize they fucked it up… sometimes though they’re just assholes they are trying to cover being an ass.
It’s usually a matter of context to tell which is which.
otp@sh.itjust.works 6 days ago
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 6 days ago
Most of the times I swing and miss with a joke, the other person just doesn’t connect with my humor. Instead of being offended, I find they’re just confused by what just happened.
For example, I had a joke I found funny, but apperently I’m the only one who finds it funny.
See, what you do is…you go to a place that wouldn’t have mustard, like a bus stop. And you ask
Uhhhh…where’s the mustard?
And they say something that indicates they don’t know, or there isn’t any. And you say
Oh, ok. Sorry.
I find that joke hilarious. Nobody else gets it. But they aren’t offended…
master5o1@lemmy.nz 6 days ago
If your neighbour’s donkey is eating your flowers you’re entitled to ask them to move their fat ass.
ChadMcTruth@lemmy.world 6 days ago
this happens to me all the time
fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 days ago
tfkirp issthty
nimpnin@sopuli.xyz 6 days ago
Over time, you start seeing a pattern. If the (superficially) rude things mostly make you laugh, it’s the former, if they mostly make you feel bad, it’s the latter.
hydroptic@sopuli.xyz 6 days ago
Oh yeah that’s generally true, but something like calling a person fat just sounds like someone’s being an asshole and then when they get called out they turn it into your problem for being “too sensitive” because it was “just a joke” – ie. continuing to be an asshole