People never seem to have problems with changing pronouns when it’s for someone’s pet
“Cute dog what’s his name”
“Oh she’s Luna”
“I love her!”
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EABOD25@lemm.ee 5 days agoI don’t understand the whole controversy of pronouns. If a person says “Hey, call me this instead of this” that’s fine. I don’t have to go out my way to do what you request. If it bothers people to go against the “ebb and flow” on something so simple, then that’s their personal problem.
However comparing it to a burka, then it almost seems like the opposite side having an issue with people who don’t adhere to your standard. the whole argument is completely asinine because I don’t understand why it’s should matter and why people that prefer something besides their default pronoun get so upset about what other people think.
We as individual people have too much shit on our plate as it is. Why are you going to get mad because someone that you could easily remove from your life (because you don’t like them for a possible myriad of reasons) has spited you? Live your own life and stop getting mad about how others live there’s.
Now with that being said, I’ve never had a family member that I love come out requesting a different pronoun beside default (also i personally think saying “default” is the best way to approach it), so i can’t say exactly how I would react.
tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 days ago
Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
You say that, but I have had a pet snake since I was a child and because I was a boy child I assumed they were male. But once I got older it occured to me that I have no idea if they’re actually male or female (because sexing a snake isn’t as easy as with mammals) and it seems more likely that they’re actually female. But I’m not certain either way and I genuinely don’t care. So I’ve since started refering to them as they/them. My dad still points it out every time I do it. “Oh, you have multiple snakes?” It’s kinda weird considering he’s so progressive in every other way.
T00l_shed@lemmy.world 5 days ago
It’s really easy, say your name is Tom, and I start calling you Stacy all the time, you’re going to get bothered by it eventually at best Or downright fuming at worst. It literally takes you nothing to use the right nouns/pronouns.
big_fat_fluffy@leminal.space 5 days ago
That’s a large assumption, and a presumptuous demand.
Do no assume. Do not demand. Mind your manners.
T00l_shed@lemmy.world 5 days ago
It’s not, and it’s not. Correct, false, Correct, Correct.
big_fat_fluffy@leminal.space 5 days ago
To address the first one. You assume that everybody uses language the same way that you do. That conforming to your demands in this is as preferable for them as it is for you.
That’s a pretty gigantic assumption.
EABOD25@lemm.ee 5 days ago
But if it’s a requested change, how put out are you by it? It’s still the same human that you respect and appreciate. And if you respect and appreciate them, you’d adhere to their request. That’s what loyalty is
T00l_shed@lemmy.world 5 days ago
Not put out at all. Even if I don’t respect and appreciate them. I will use the name they want. Loyalty has nothing to do with this.
EABOD25@lemm.ee 5 days ago
Ok. Then respect