Comment on Men Harassed A Woman In A Driverless Waymo, Trapping Her In Traffic

• BambiDiego@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  The question isn’t sexist, it’s emotionally driven, and dismissing it outright is narrow minded. That is what I think is dangerous.

  The truth is the question reveals that to most women asked the question, men are unpredictable, and women have to navigate the world that way.

  A bear is a bear, it’s always going to do what it does, and you can work around that. Leave it alone and it will leave you alone, even if you have to work hard to avoid it. If you disturb it, it will kill you. It’s predictable.

  Men on the other hand are very likely to respect women, maybe even work together. However, there is the small, small, SMALL chance that they will be a terrible person. They could attack, abuse, sexually assault, straight up rape, or even kill the woman; or they could do a disgusting combination of those.

  The true root of the question isn’t “do you think a random man is more dangerous than a wild animal?” Of course not.

  The real question being put on a social scale is “what’s more predictably dangerous, a random man, or a wild animal?” And the fact that women almost unanimously have the same answer should be commentary enough on how they have to live their lives.

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  • eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Best description of this I’ve read, thank you. It’s not a question about men directly, it’s a question about how women have to navigate a world with a small percentage of men that will hurt them given the opportunity.

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    • BambiDiego@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Tbf a friend had to explain it to me, when the debate went viral at first I was mainly confused. I’m sure when I was younger I would have been one of the men with delicate egos that would find it irrational to not choose a man. It’s actually more thought out and rational when women say bear.

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  • CaptPretentious@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Here’s a bear, www.youtube.com/watch?v=9G1aHkLHQ2I just leave it alone and it’ll leave you alone is incorrect. And dangerous advice. Bears are unpredictable wild animals.

    men are unpredictable

    So women, are exempt, women are absolutely predictable? Cool. Totally NOT sexist. Also, hot take, but what’s your stand on trans-men/women?.. Are they predicable or not?

    You also seem to imply that women aren’t likely to abuse, sexually assault, straight up rape, or even kill ? Shit, i must have had bad luck, because I’ve been physically assaulted by most of the women I’ve dated, raped by one, and I’ve known countless women who’d joke directly to me “if he gets hard, he wants it… can’t rape the willing”. Cool, good to know I’ve just had bad luck…

    And sorry, but people asked a question on the internet, where people chase trends and fades like mad… that’s the data source. Unreliable.

    It’s sexist. I’ve proven, right there it’s sexist. Potentially, transphobic. It’s wrapped in false information, a false narrative. And then twisted at the end to try to sound like it’s not, and it comes very much across like far-right PR spin.

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    • BambiDiego@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      That bear didn’t do anything that was unpredictable, it did what a bear does. I never said a bear wouldn’t maul you, treat it as a bear.

      I didn’t say women aren’t unpredictable, that’s a weird take at best, and an argument on a logical fallacy at worst.

      I didn’t imply that women can’t be just as evil as men, they absolutely can, because they’re human beings. Same for anybody who’s non-binary, they’re just humans.

      I’m sorry that happened to you, nobody deserves abuse.

      I don’t understand what you mean by data source. It was an internet trend and some men, not all, got really pissy that some women, not all, chose bear instead of man. A friend explained to me why they might do that and it makes sense, at the end of the day it’s people sharing their opinions, and sometimes trying to understand others opinions helps us understand them better.

      I don’t see how it’s sexist, I see no proof, only your opinion based on talking points. Same goes for it being transphobic, it doesn’t make sense to me, please clarify.

      If anything this is just a conversation, not proof, your word is worth just as much as mine. We’re just two people sharing our opinions, that’s it.

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