Reyali

@Reyali@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When did Cash for Chritianity become a thing? When even Jesus the son of god wouldn't stand for it in a church? If they preach why don't they practice from the bible?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I appreciate seeing the Quaker love on Lemmy! (UUs are awesome too, in my experience!)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people hate reality?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s a lot to take issue with in your post that doesn’t mean people prefer fake things.

  Assuming people hate reality because of these arbitrary dichotomies that aren’t actually black and white.

  Spending time online can mean making real, personal connections. Why is that less valuable than spending time outside? Are people who have allergies or heat intolerance or live in a big city somehow lesser because they can’t spend as much time in nature?

  Many people don’t get plastic surgery or any of the things you listed. Plus a lot of people who claim they hate makeup and prefer “natural beauty” actually just like natural-looking makeup and prefer that to people who truly don’t wear any.

  Organic is more expensive and less accessible than not-organic; often it’s not a choice. Plus like another commenter said, it’s not like GMO means fake. We’ve been genetically modifying plants for millennia through selective breeding; we’ve just sped up how it’s done.

  Ozempic is an easier way to weight loss and yeah, some people take it as a lazy way out I’m sure. But also a lot of people who are overweight aren’t just that way because they’re lazy, but because there’s an underlying issue. Mental health issues like depression or addiction; physical health issues that cause weight gain like hypothyroidism or issues that make exercise difficult (and yes, weight can add to these problems, but a lot of time it’s a both/and situation); socioeconomic problems that make healthy food inaccessible due to time or cost limitations or living in a food desert. There are many reasons people are overweight beyond simply choosing not to exercise. (And I shouldn’t have to do this but just to head off any judgment you want to throw at me: my BMI is currently 18.1, putting me in the “underweight” category. I have never been overweight, I just have empathy for people who live different lives than me.)

  You’re making a lot of false dichotomies and everything you’ve said is rooted in judgments of people. I suspect that’s where the downvotes are coming from, but I also suspect you’ll find issue in what I’m saying and dismiss me for it rather than checking in with your own biases and judgments.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you were a superhero and you knew a 21- to 23-year-old dating older people, what would you do?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  My partner and I started dating when I was 23 and he was 35 and while I don’t think OP is in the right, I really feel like we stretched the bounds of what was ok. I still had a lot of learning the basics of being an adult, and he had to put up with some incredibly immature shit from me. We’ve been together 13 years now so I don’t regret it, but I do cringe and worry when I see others following in my footsteps.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I always hit this button⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I did a bit of reading to confirm my understanding, which is that employers can pay below minimum wage when tips are regularly earned by that employee. So technically, baristas, fast food workers, counter-service workers, and the like could fall into that category, but since it’s not a cultural expectation that those employees are tipped on every transaction, I think it would be harder for an employer to justify the regularity of their tip earnings and therefore pay them less than minimum wage.

  That’s why, in my personal practice, those tips are optional and based exclusively on above-average service.

  When it comes to takeout from a restaurant, there are usually two types of places I go: 1) smaller, individually owned restaurants, or 2) large chain restaurants like the one my coworker had previously worked for.

  In the first case, I leave some tip because it’s a small business and I’ve known people who own restaurants and realize how hard a business it is. In the latter, I tip because thaf coworker told me that her role was paid under the assumption of her receiving tips and I realized there is a service being provided.

  Anyway, lots of people seem to be disappointed about my personal choice to tip some types of food service. I appreciate you engaging in a way that doesn’t seem judgmental or defensive.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I always hit this button⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not clear what you’re saying the problem is. The fact that I tip because it’s expected?

  Me choosing to follow the system that was in place well before I was born isn’t the problem. The law allows for food service workers to be paid less than minimum wage. If you don’t agree with that, petition the government or boycott restaurants until they change policy; don’t stiff low-wage employees.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I always hit this button⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  They did their job, yet our government legally allows their employers to not pay them full wages for their work and instead depend on their customers to supplement their wages. If you had a job that was legally allowed to pay you under minimum wage because it expected you to earn money in addition to that, then I would expect you’d get tips too.

  Until the laws change in a way that support food service workers better, I’m going to continue to do my part in contributing to their wages.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I always hit this button⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I meant a takeout counter like Chipotle or somewhere else that you order and get the food at the same time, not sitting and waiting for an order somewhere.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I always hit this button⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  When I’m sitting down to a dinner, the bare minimum I expect is food served to my table in a reasonable time, drink refills, etc., but I tip for that service. When I’m at a bar the bare minimum I expect is to receive the drink I ordered, but I tip for that service.

  Again, as I said, I would much prefer if tipping were not a part of our culture at all. But I alone will not change that just by shortchanging low-wage employees.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I always hit this button⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I worked with someone who changed my mind on this. She’d worked the take-out counter at a restaurant and she talked through the kinds of steps she took to ensure the meal was correct, containers were properly sealed, and they had utensils, napkins, sauces, and all the things the customer would need or expect.

  Learning about the amount of time and care put in at that restaurant made it clear that it was a service.

  I usually give 10% at restaurants with a similar service because of her. With takeaway restaurants where you just order at a counter, though? I generally only tip if the people working were super friendly.

  I’d prefer to not have a tipping culture at all. But as long as this is the society we live in, I can afford to pay a couple extra bucks here and there to help people who generally make shit wages.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mispronouncing words⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Many years ago I saw a TIFU on reddit about a person who mispronounced “banal” while on a call with many people. I will always be grateful to that person’s fuck up for correcting my mental pronunciation of that word, lol.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which career to pursue?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Usually I’ll answer product management because that’s what I do and I enjoy it (and I had no idea this career existed while I was in school), but reading this I actually think it could be a good fit for you, depending on how you feel about socializing with people.

  I have an English degree but I also worked at an IT company every summer from high school through college, doing many different jobs with an increasingly technical focus. I taught myself HTML and CSS when I was like 10, but except for one high school class of Java I never got deeper into coding than that.

  My interest in language and words combines with my technical aptitude in product management. I usually describe it as a job of translation, because I have to work with customers, internal users, business leaders, designers, and developers, and I need to be able to talk to and listen to all of them and understand their context well enough to translate to the other groups. I might need to tell the exact same story half a dozen completely different ways depending on my audience.

  There are lots of different approaches to product management and every company does it differently, but some of the critical skills are being able to identify and deeply understand problems (of the business, of customers, etc.) and propose solutions to those problems.

  It sounds like you have some technical aptitude but also interest in language and story telling (and a big part of product management is writing what are literally “user stories”), so if you don’t mind the people interactions, it might work for you too.

  I’ve on or involved with Product teams for about 10 years now and an actual Product Manager for over 6, managing a team of PMs for the last 3. I feel like I found it by accident, and I totally lucked into a career I actually love, so I’m happy to talk to people about it any time!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Frankenbeans⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Isn’t that Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, not Frankenstein?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Education doesn't increase intelligence by making people memorize things, but by constantly reminding people that they might be wrong.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You and I are on the same page. My only point was that there are unfortunately many people out there now who believe they have a “healthy” level of skepticism, but are actually misled, misinformed, and not educated enough to distinguish reality. And I named specific groups who frequently fit this pattern.

  When skepticism is truly healthy, it’s great. But there are many people who are unable to identify what “healthy” means here. No where did I say or mean to imply that some skepticism is a bad thing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Education doesn't increase intelligence by making people memorize things, but by constantly reminding people that they might be wrong.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Unfortunately this also gets abused by some people who believe they have a healthy level of skepticism, but actually are way off the deep end. Like anti-vaxxers, flat-Earthers, and other anti-science people.

  So “healthy” in this context shouldn’t be defined by the individual.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Entering hyperspace⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m sure you know this so I’m commenting for others.

  Sodium chloride alone can really upset your stomach, and potassium “buffers” the salt in a way that reduces nausea risk. There are straight up condensed salt pills that work, but are more likely to make you sick.

  I also didn’t eat a lot of salt in the past and had to train myself into it. In fact, when I first started seeing my cardiologist, I made a humorous list of all the conventional wisdom I learned wasn’t true for me.

  PSAs: Salt is bad for you! Eat less! My cardiologist: Salt is good for you. Eat more. Like 7-10 GRAMS a day.

  Popular media: Wearing a corset might make you faint! My cardiologist: Abdominal compression is good. Wear a corset, it’ll make you faint less.

  Fitness guides: When you hit an energy wall, push through to build endurance! My cardiologist: When you hit a wall, STOP! You will pay for it if you keep going!

  All health guides: The best drink for your health is water; always drink more! My cardiologist: Just water is BAD. Drink lots, yes, but be careful to balance it out with electrolytes.

  Magazine headlines: Walking is the best exercise for health. My cardiologist: Walk if you can tolerate it, but that is not good exercise for you. Rowing, recumbent biking, and swimming are best for you.

  Still makes me chuckle as I learn to listen to my body and not society.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Entering hyperspace⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Electrolyte drink mixes are my saving grace, and LMNT is my favorite brand by a long shot. I enjoy drinking LMNT while every other brand I’ve tried is a slog.

  I try to have 2 a day in about 25oz of water each. Hot days with lots of activity, I may need 3.

  I genuinely can’t imagine getting 5–10 liters of water a day, and I already drink so much more than most people I know!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Entering hyperspace⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My cardiologist called it “POTS or vasovagal syncope,” and said he could specify with a tilt test, but since he treats them the same he didn’t recommend the tilt test.

  So I could just say “yes,” but instead I give a long-winded answer to say that it’s a technically undefined dysautonomia that I treat like POTS, lol.

  I use electrolyte mixes, salt pills, and salt my food, with a goal of 7–10g of salt and 100 oz of water a day. It’s amazing how much better I feel when I hit both of those targets!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Entering hyperspace⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

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  Oh? I’ve had this issue as long as I can remember. Teens for sure, probably before.

  It’s actually gotten better as I’ve aged because I eat more consistently and now know I need to eat tons of salt.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If there's a sort of "apocalyptic" event but there are still surviving communities, will people be able to make eyeglasses again, or are people with vision issues gonna be fucked?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  My partner and I have discussed our wildly different willingness to try to survive in a post-apocalyptic world plenty of times over the years. He would work to survive and would probably thrive more than the average survivor. Me? I’ve always said I’ll likely head to the cough syrup section of the pharmacy.

  This conversation came up earlier today, in fact. Well, I was recently diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. I’m still sorting out the right medication to get it under control and am dealing with a lot of pain, but way less than before starting treatment. I told him with this diagnosis, if society ever collapses in a way that causes me to be unable to get my medication? I’m out.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would we be able to use the measles virus to reset the immune systems of people with autoimmune disorders like MS or rheumatoid arthritis?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks for links. As someone recently diagnosed with RA, I’m still trying to absorb as much information on it as possible.

  What’s interesting about the study is it focused on RA patients without positive rheumatoid factor (RF) blood work. Now, in my skimming I didn’t see it mention anti-CCP, which is the more definitive test for RA. Despite the name, positive RF alone could be any number of things that aren’t RA. They didn’t mention if they were totally seronegative, though.

  I have an unsubstantiated theory that seronegative and seropositive RA may be distinct diseases, but we don’t know enough yet and we treat them the same, so they get the same name. If the pts in this study were totally seronegative, that could correlate to my theory where maybe “seronegative RA” is actually more of a long-term infection triggered by measles. But these are just idle musings.

  As a side note, the name rheumatoid arthritis is pretty silly from an etymological standpoint. The words basically break down as:

  • rheum means inflammation
  • -toid mean like a thing
  • arth- means joints
  • -itis means inflammation

  So put together, it’s “inflammatory-like joint inflammation.”