BeNotAfraid

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⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨As China prepares to invade Taiwan, a reality check: sitting on the sidelines won’t help Australia⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
The Malacca Strait is used by most container and vehicle ships coming to Australia from Europe. It’s the main route for shipping from the Indian Ocean trading with Asia. It carries about 80,000 ships a year. Once ships from Australia reach North Asia or pass through the Indonesian archipelago, they enter the busiest shipping lanes in the world. The ships carrying Australia’s bulk commodity exports are a significant presence: it’s estimated they account for 29% of global bulk shipping, however the 8 million containers handled each year at Australia’s ports are less than 1% of the global total. So, absolutely disastrous for Australian trade while leaving the rest of the world largely unaffected.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Q anon was a psyop.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
It’s the red-pill movement. Everything since Gamergate. The endless videos of Jordan Peterson coinciding with Joe Rogan’s tilt to propaganda. Andrew Tate, certified rapist, Sex Trafficker and disgraced MMA combatant. Pushing the idea of individualism and hyper-masculinity. In order to normalise misogyny in young men. Incels, 8Chan and influencers in that sphere have always been disproportionately shown to men, especially young men. It’s part of Curtis Yarvin’s "Dark Enlightenment.’ Dude writes like a 15 year old on Myspace, but the tech billionaires worship him like a prophet. He directly takes credit for even naming the movement. It’s all to spread disinformation and divide the public. Stop us meeting in public and having discussions, just look what Just Eat, Uber, Doordash and all those food apps have done to restaurants as a communal meeting place.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We'd like to welcome our newest Student to Hogwarts, Hun-Gary Mc'Spud.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
Am I?
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We'd like to welcome our newest Student to Hogwarts, Hun-Gary Mc'Spud.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:
Neither, I am gay and I am the shit. What’s your point?
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We'd like to welcome our newest Student to Hogwarts, Hun-Gary Mc'Spud.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
It’s not out of fear, it’s a conscientious objection. To the normalisation of the erasure of privacy and personal agency in an online space that exists to control our behaviour brokered by algorithms incentivised to expand human suffering for profit.

Or, you know some other gay shit…
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨We'd like to welcome our newest Student to Hogwarts, Hun-Gary Mc'Spud.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Wow, what a fun way to give a data point about yourself to attach to a public profile already connected to your IP address and potentially your email as well. Cool!
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Happy No-more-USA Day⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
So, someone within America has a negative view about the current American government and their supporters and you want to show them the error of their ways? So, this person you take issue with. Who is wishing ill of the supporters of the government attempting to bring about the end of social equity and expand the class divide of people based on financial income and the inalienable physical characteristics of people outside of white European descent, like the Jim Crow era, that’s rot? That’s what you’re saying. Fuck off, man.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Happy No-more-USA Day⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Woah Buddy Hoser! Go back to Reddit Eh?
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Happy No-more-USA Day⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
You’re Canadian, why are you getting your panties in a bunch by inserting yourself into a back and forth of an American telling Magat to “Fuck off”? Canada Day was 3 days ago.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨hmmmmm⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Intimidation, they’re not hiding it. They’re just letting you know.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
You just lack the self-awareness and victimise yourself under the guise of “men’s issues” so that other guys can emapthise with you and give credence to the idea that men are simultaneously completely forgotten about and that mental healthcare is a soft-science, or doesn’t work for us. When clearly you can see how in this male dominated space, your feelings are not forgotten about. But, because you’ve never actually been to therapy and don’t understand the core concepts. Everything falls back to “society treats women like this and treats men like this” and “this is the reason therapy is bad.” When the reality is that self-reflection and analyses is hard and a skill and very taxing. That’s why people do drugs instead of going to therapy. It’s why men coalesce around the idea that we’re treated “worse” by “society” forgetting that men and women basically make up all of society. Ironically, making your own safe space where you can appeal to shallow emotional arguments around injustice and inequity, while also complaining that the tools, knowledge and science we have at our disposal don’t work.

It’s this really apparent cognitive dissonance that you display here. i.e. You take the premise, stating that talking about your feelings, analysing your behaviour and coming to conclusions about yourself (therapy) is a waste of time. But also, nobody cares about men’s issues and your psychological state isn’t something you have any agency over, but it is a rational response to the state of the world around you. You should read Viktor Frankl. He was an Austrian Neurologist and psychiatrist who was put into forced labour at a concentration camp during World War 2. It nearly killed him, but he survived and died 50 years later. He published a book called Man’s Search for Meaning. Which is a detailed account of how happiness can be achieved in the most unthinkably monstrous circumstances. How Love, Beauty and Humour can exist if you look for and cultivate them and how those glimmers, no matter how small. Lend to his assertion that meaning can be found in the most miserable of conditions.

Which immediately discounts the doomerism you display in your other comments. I’d also say listen to some Alan Watts if you really are stuck in this mindset. He was much more a philosophical entertainer than an actual great thinker. But, one of his better opinions is that, you are your mindset and your metal health. Like, if you perceive, or tell yourself you perceive all of these horrible things about the economy, housing, the state of human loneliness. Then that is what you feel, it will be true to you and you will be unable to do anything. Alternatively, if you move away from constantly thinking about existential threats. To just actually, what is in front of you perceptively. You can find these glimmers of positivity that give your life dignity and meaning. It’s the same as before, when I confronted you on the sexism of saying, “women are therapists, women can’t understand men. Therefore, mental healthcare doesn’t work for men.”

I confronted you about that and then you made it existential by tasking me with finding how many therapists across the entire field (and there are thousands of niche categories within this discipline, just fyi) are unbiased.

how many well trained therapists are there out there who are totally objective, compared to poorly trained ones who will often perpetual their harmful biases?

does anyone know? how do we even measure that? do we just assume people who have a certain degree from a certain program are inherently ‘objective’?

Which are things no one can possibly know, which are not necessary to know in order for what your saying to be proven false, or for therapy to be effective. You purposefully make it existential by doing that. Because, now you’ve made an impossible task an essential requirement for you to change your perspective on things. You require it to change your perspective on therapy and actually go. This way, you dismiss what I am saying and then you don’t have to do the thing you don’t want to. You can just, sound like advocate for men’s issues and then you can get all the emotional validation you require from other men, who also feel disenfranchised, in the form of supportive comments and updoots. All without having to go through the painful, (coded: humiliating) and personally challenging prospect of psychotherapy. Honestly dude, you read very much, like someone who really wants therapy.

Who wants to understand why they are this way, wants to be understood and wants to improve their life. But, it’s expensive, what if I don’t like them? What if it doesn’t work? So, instead you get emotional validation anyway you can. By appealing to the male disenfranchisement sentiment, which is literally everywhere online from Andrew Tate to Sam Seeder. It perpetuates wallowing in victimhood which is tantamount to drugs in terms of emotional coping. The ultimate goal of therapy is to overcome these issues. So, that while the factually true things about the negative existential events we cannot control continue to occur. It does not become a crutch to support your failures in interpersonal communications, bad behaviours, lack of motivation, or lack of emotional fulfillment. Seriously, I recognise from what you’re saying that you’ve never been to psychotherapy. Genuinely, it would help you stop equating your personal feelings with the inequity of men’s issues, which would make those problems feel less like existential threats and help you improve your life. I’m not even trying to be condescending, I recognise this as a neuroticism I have dealt with as a younger man and I can speak from experience. Confronting it honestly and with curiosity and self-reflection has massively improved my outlook on life and helped me become much more secure in my masculinity.

Give it a try, because the other option is you just self-flagellate in this cyclical mindset of victimisation that doesn’t actually go anywhere and is only validated by others caught in this myopic and isolating worldview. Give it a shot.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
I did, but your main assertion that therapists are women, women don’t understand the male perspective therefore mental healthcare for men, (like talk therapy and counseling) are ineffective. Is not just completely wrong, you start talking about how gendered biases effect the outcome. Ignoring that psychology is an incredibly complex, extremely well-documented and highly regarded field of study, That’s like saying you wouldn’t trust a female virtuoso guitarist to perform ‘Master of Puppets’ because her female perspective would bias her against playing a solo written by a man. I am a man, I have had some success in therapy and counseling. I need more work, I’ll admit. But, all of the best practitioners I have worked with have been women. If you go to counseling, with a social worker, or a master’s student in psychology, yeah that can be a bit dodgy. But the idea that a registered psychotherapist, a doctor, would not be able to provide effective treatment because women can’t understand men is absolutely petulent. It is a myth pervaded, by a lot of influential male voices online. It misunderstands the whole purpose of talk therapy and they mis-characterise it as “giving advice” and “putting biases in your head.” When they are literally just there to help you confront and come to terms with things that are affecting your ability to live. This stupid argument is always propped up by the same idea of women not being able to understand the male perspective. When really, the disparity between the sexes in terms of reported mental health issues, is actually because people make arguments like yours. They say “all therapists are women and women don’t understand the male perspective” and “women report higher levels of depression and anxiety, therefore mood disorders are women’s issues.” When, in fact, it is men that dominate the field of psychotherapy, psychology and psychiatry. It is also us men that are killing themselves in record numbers, it is us that drive cars into street markets, it is us that shoot into crowds of people and then turn the gun on ourselves and it is boys that go online and see men like you. Making these harmful, disingenuous, ignorant arguments that makes them believe that their mental health is unimportant and that any pain, or issue they are having difficulty with is their problem and a flaw in themselves.

I have read your comment, I have read all of your comments in this thread and your rhetoric is not just wholly emblematic of someone who has never done any meaningful work in therapy, it is dangerous and invalidating to kids who don’t have the experience and don’t know any better. That’s why you expand your argument, from therapists to the entire field, because then it goes from sexist nonsense, to a broader discussion on the existence of human bias. Personally, I wouldn’t trust someone, who has never so much as opened a textbook on abnormal psychology, to be a great judge of the existence of gendered biases in contemporary psychological care. I swear, if more men could be brave enough to admit that we endure psychological strain and experience issues through that strain that manifest in ways that effect our lives, we wouldn’t have Trump. Roe V Wade would be codified. So many of today’s problems exist because of the stigma round men seeking help with their mental health. So, yes I recognise your arguments and your perspectives and they are prejudiced, unhelpful and dangerous. When young men going through crises see this stuff and haven’t developed a sense of identity yet, they adopt this. Because this is what they think they’re supposed to believe, because boys look to contemporary male ideas and figures to emulate perceived masculinity. That’s how you get idiots on the Internet trying to discredit what is arguably the single most needed field of medicine in the world right now. That’s how you normalise male loneliness and hopelessness that the situation can improve, you make young men feel like no one can understand them, or help them understand themselves and that is how you get radicalisation, incels and domestic terrorists. So, maybe just stop with the whole "injustice over the feeling of being a man whose feelings are not understood and actually go to therapy. It might help you empathise with other people’s perspectives, perhaps you could analyse why you have these uninformed beliefs about this field of healthcare you seem so impassioned about discrediting and maybe even help you understand why it feels like no one gets you and the effect your words have on the well-being of impressionable members of our sex and what that means for men, as a whole and our feelings about our place in society? It would help all of us.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
No, but that’s not the argument you were making before. You said therapists are women, women don’t understand the male perspective, implying therapy is ineffective. Ironically, those most hostile towards mental health treatment and self-analysis are often those with the least amount of time in counseling/therapy. Often the ones that would benefit the most out of it. The goal of a therapist is not to make you feel understood, a therapist is supposed to help you understand and come to conclusions about yourself, so that you can improve your life. Everything about coming to terms with neuropathy/trauma/coping mechanisms takes work and self-discipline. Hand-waving away people’s lived experience categorically stating that mental healthcare is ineffective, based on your own (I would bet) extremely limited experience with the field. That’s a lot easier. See how you’re asking me

how many well trained therapists are there out there who are totally objective, compared to poorly trained ones who will often perpetual their harmful biases?

does anyone know? how do we even measure that? do we just assume people who have a certain degree from a certain program are inherently ‘objective’?

As if that de-legitimises any point that I have made in response to those statements is childish. See how when it’s your narrow perspective you view it as reason enough to make blanket statements therapy, women and mental health. But when I offer mine you expand the scope to the point I have to contend with Bias over an entire field study and healthcare? That’s because your argument is weak, it’s a fallacy and it’s based on conjecture. I assure you, everyone has biases but again, therapists are there to help you come to conclusions, not give advice. The most harmful bias anyone can have is there own personal biases, which if left unchecked, allows the ego to feel secure, but stops you from growing as a person. That’s why you spaz out and attack therapy as an institution, because my drawing attention to and invalidating your biased opinion makes the ego feel threatened. That’s why you turn it from a conversation into a confrontation, because an argument you can win. If you acknowledge your position is incorrect/prejudice then that feels like a problem within the self. Which we can’t stand, because in a world of diffuse human interaction we are all the protagonist and we want people to like us. Which is an insight you would have if you had actually ever gone to therapy.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
No, you pivot to wealth inequality because wealth inequality is a populist left argument popular on populist left platforms like lemmy. Your blanket statement about therapists being women and women not understanding the male perspective are sexist and incorrect and so you move the goal posts by refraining the argument as opposed to address the rightful criticisms of your previous statement. What is with people on the internet trying to speak like politicians? We can read the words you typed.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are the games you played in your youth that you still play today?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Worms Armageddon was a classic
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are the games you played in your youth that you still play today?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Crash Bandicoot 2: Wrath of Cortex. Original hardware, Muscle memory from childhood. Still a banger 27 years after my first time.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

The only ‘side’ that has power is the wealthy.

Pivot to wealth inequality because?

But keep banging your gender war drum, it probably gives you meaning and purpose in life to collectively blame 'me’n for all the worlds ills as if anyone who has a penis or wants a penis is entirely the same.

You are the one who made the issue about differences in sex and/or gender.

No wonder you made no progress in therapy. You’re completely obtuse.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

But keep screaming that anything that disagrees with your particular narrative that women are great and perpetual victims of men and men are always bad, I guess?

Incel talk
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
Nonsense. The idea that all psychological issues are defined by gender is just the perspective of someone who’s never made any meaningful progress through therapy and/or counseling. Mental health is not a gendered issue and the repetition of this misconception just leads more people to give up without even trying. Yes, the lens of sexual identity comes into play, mainly in terms of cultural gender roles experienced in your part of the world. But, a well trained, experienced therapist will have these considerations while exploring issues you present with. I would argue, that psychiatrists (which is a much more male dominated field) are much more of an issue, because their objective is not to help you come to conclusions about yourself. It is to medicate your symptoms away to allow you to function. I am sorry you did not have a good experience yourself, but that is not reflective of therapy, or counseling as a whole and your characterisation of men vs women in therapy is sexist and sounds more like male influencer talking points than lived experience.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[Video] BBC cuts away during pro-Palestine musicians Kneecap. The followup act Bob Vylan invents a new chant on live TV⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
and you’re a big smelly smell-bag who smells :P
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[Video] BBC cuts away during pro-Palestine musicians Kneecap. The followup act Bob Vylan invents a new chant on live TV⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
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⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[Video] BBC cuts away during pro-Palestine musicians Kneecap. The followup act Bob Vylan invents a new chant on live TV⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:
God, you’re a melt.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Study finds persistent spike in hate speech on X⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
Then it’s not a spike, it’s a trend. Created by, mostly (hopefully) bots, there to move the overton window and normalise racism and hyper-regressive world views to divide the working class while the rich use us as Cannon fodder for their genocide against our fellow working class. Wankers.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨UK | Keir Starmer to launch national inquiry into grooming gangs⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
This is Bullshit! All done by The Tories to make the Labour government look bad. There was an inquiry into Grooming Gangs already. It took 7 years and cost the Tax Payer 200 Million pounds. The Judge Responsible for reviewing the findings of the inquiry recommended 20 and specific laws that should be implemented as soon as possible. MP’s were in The House about to sign those recommendations into Law and they were vetoed by the leader of the Conservatives. She got up in parliament and started manufacturing false concern that “the inquiry did not go far enough.” Why is Keir Starmer refusing to answer the demands of the Public? All to obstruct the desperately needed social progress, because that would make their opposition look good.

Starmer, who was one of the main judiciary responsible for breaking the case of the grooming gangs and responsible for the prosecutions of the men involved, shot her down immediately. Then the Papers and the rage-bait articles all went with the headlines “Keir Starmer doesn’t care about grooming gangs, refuses demand for deeper inquiry” This is why the British Public need to wake up to the fact that Rupert Murdoch owns you. Look how they brutally character assassinated Jeremy Corbyn. Look at the way the right wing obstruct changes that would protect and ease deep seated unrest in the country. Jimmy The Giant has a great video that brings it up in detail.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Google about to destroy the web?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
Open Street Maps, or any fork from it. You can also purchase a modern road atlas for basically nothing. Alternatively, people do make navigation units for cars, that you can purchase. Life is completely possible, with relatively little inconvenience if you want to separate yourself from Big Tech. I write down the directions and just follow street signs. You don’t want to rely on things like GPS, because it destroys your ability to commit identifying markers to memory. You can glance at the screen and glance at the road in front of you. But that stops you from being able to commit the experience from memory. Smart Tech and the offloading of our mental faculties to technology has made all of us
1. Way too overconfident in our ability to comprehend, review and parse information.
2. Decimated our attention spans and will most likely see a whole new type of cognitive decline.
Sorry for the tangent. But yeah, there’s options there. With or without the tech.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨£2.5 billion for prototype fusion energy plant⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
Yes, This is good. Energy independence is going to be the issue of the 21st century.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is Jordan Peterson both a Christian and not a Christian?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
Grifters gotta grift
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The UK government is considering mandatory chemical castration for sex offenders – it’s an ethical and legal minefield⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:
Forced Sterilization is a dangerous precedent to set. First it’s sex offenders, then it’ll be disabled people, “drug addicts” but really it’ll be the poor. The working class, disenfranchised by the wealthy. Crime is caused by poverty. We cannot do this as a society. Once you start deciding that one group of people are more deserving of basic biological function, you just open it up to moving the line on where that is. Rehabilitation does not come from castration. Peoples genitals don’t make them sex offenders.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is coal and fossil fuels still used?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:
Money, They cornered the market and then they started yielding the profits from it to exert political influence. That’s why molten Salt Thorium Reactors were abandoned by american scientists in the 60s. With nuclear power it would mean the end of for profit energy consumption. That plus the surveillance network of the billionaire class is what’s fueling all of the political tensions and far-right (See Fascism) around the world. Denmark is already capable of producing over 140% of its daily energy usage through wind alone. The guardian wrote an article about it in 2015. Wind is still less than 1% of all global energy production. Alberta gets 300 days of sun a year, but have been brainwashed by big oil to invent and reflexively disavow any information otherwise. Then the fossil fuel industry and tech industry launched the Brexit disinformation campaign to weaken the EU that same year. With the advent of China as well as Copenhagen Atomics producing working prototype reactors capable of producing staggeringly vast amounts of energy with less than 1000x the nuclear waste of traditional light water reactors, the change is inevitable. That’s what all of this is for them the war in Ukraine, Trump, Italy, Romania. It’s the fossil fuel industry. With the advent of nuclear power, the obviousness of the effects of climate change and advanced battery technology, the only way they can ensure a continuous demand is war. There are no electric tanks. Russia is a petro state, Saudi Arabia is a petro state, trump is trying to turn the US into an authoritarian petro state. It’s oil, they are the reason for all of this bullshit. Coal power plants are the most dangerous form of energy production, they kill approximately 1,000,000 people a year. We’ve had the technology to move away from them for over 70 years. That’s 70,000,000 dead people. That is more people than died in the entire second world war and we aren’t even talking about it because we’d rather just fall into arguing about transgenderism online than actually stopping them. It all goes back to fossil fuels.
⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i truly believe that there's an open war between Humanity vs. Advertisers and their allies.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:
That’s what the denigration of the term conspiracy theory was about. Did you notice? Conspiracy theory was a term made up by the CIA in order to dismiss peoples claims about government experimentation during the MK Ultra experiments. Media called those questioning 9/11 “truthers.” Which just so happened to include guys saying the planes were CGI and people who questioned how a group of goat herders from a country with literally zero infrastructure, living in caves, managed to hijack and divert commercial airliners in a perfect sequence of synchronistic events and American intelligence agencies, had no idea.

Now conspiracy theory means, electric pyramid, the flat earth conspiracy and heliocentricism. The rejection of intellectualism is all carefully co-ordinated. They don’t want you to know things, if you see them for how they are you might rebel.