Otherbarry

@Otherbarry@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  With tips I generally do 20% across the board so a bartender would get 20% just like a waitress. And it’s better to have a happy bartender :)

  That said I’m also in the northeast U.S. where everything is expensive so it sort of makes sense that the tips aren’t going to be cheap. Maybe I’d rethink the tipping if I was somewhere else less expensive.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How difficult would it be to live in a modern-day developed country without a smartphone?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  In the U.S. older people still get by fine without all this stuff. I have family that still has a landline, nothing else, so I guess maybe that’s #3 in your list. It does mean they physically have to go to places to get things done (e.g. physically go to a bank).

  Older people don’t care as much about social life beyond visiting/seeing the people/relatives they’ve always been seeing. A smartphone isn’t required for that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I resigned to my last job and now I need to talk to my former boss to get the job back. Any recommendations?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve returned back to an old job but I had left on good terms, and in fact my old boss ended up wanting to keep me around as a freelancer… eventually when my newer job wound down and I needed something more permanent it just kind of made sense to go back to the old job where the boss there still wanted me around anyway.

  So when it is on good terms it’s easy. In your case it doesn’t sound like you left on great terms, and it is quite possible your former boss is going to give a bad recommendation on having the company allow you to come back. Personally I might consider that a burned bridge at this point, but hey anything can happen so all you can do is give it a go. My suggestion is to talk to your former boss and just accept blame for whatever they want to throw at you, and hope they at least give a neutral recommendation on you coming back to the company. In the end you’ll have a different boss anyway so coming in it’s a new start for you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it worth selling on eBay in 2025?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  In the U.S. at least around me people tend to use Facebook or the Nextdoor app for selling or getting rid of things locally. I don’t like either app but that seems to be what the general public is into at the moment.

  Haven’t touched Ebay in ~ 15 years or so and don’t plan to go back to that mess. Last I used it PayPal decided to lock my account in the middle of doing a few buy/sells on Ebay causing both my Ebay rating to tank and losing PayPal in the process. Back then Ebay was so integrated with PayPal that it was hard to do anything there without PayPal so I happily ditched both of them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mastercard release a statement about game stores, payment processors and adult content⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yup, most times when a business gets set up for accepting credit card payments they need to set up a bank, merchant account, gateway, those things integrate with the CC companies. Often they aren’t even the same company so you’re kind of dealing with a bunch of different entities. I’m not sure if I missed any other middlemen.

  Though I’ll say lately the new thing is for the POS system / website / whatever to sell you the merchant account/gateway under their own systems so everything besides the bank and credit card companies are integrated through them (& they collect more money).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone use a phone without a protective case?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I actually kind of like that it’s a bit slippery, makes it easy to slide into my pocket. A case would just feel too bulky and and would need more force to get in/out of my jean pockets (IMO).

  Regrettably, despite having a case, I managed to crack the screen anyway. It fell face down onto a pointy rock. My first broken screen, ever.

  Oof yeah I sympathize :) My previous Pixel had a screen protector on it and I still managed to crack the screen by dropping the phone on a corner and getting a nice little corner crack. After that I figured why keep bothering with these protectors haha.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone use a phone without a protective case?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Most people I know have cases on their phones, yeah.

  But in case it is helpful my own phone (Pixel 7) has no case/screen protector. Also my phone has cracks on the back and one corner so this tracks :P

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New Game Concept: JuryNow – Get a Verdict from 12 Real People in 3 Minutes⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Opt-in might work. But thinking more about it, not sure if it would be too much of a headache to manage… I’d think you may end up having to moderate what actually shows up publicly on the site else you end up with the sorts of questions/answers that the other commenter mentioned.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New Game Concept: JuryNow – Get a Verdict from 12 Real People in 3 Minutes⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s fair, LOL.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New Game Concept: JuryNow – Get a Verdict from 12 Real People in 3 Minutes⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So does it ever tell you what the jury verdict is? I’ve done like 12 answers and there’s no visible confirmation that there were other people answering the same question let alone what the final verdict was. Kind of kills the vibe, was hoping I’d at least see what the other random anonymous jurors responded to the same question(s).

  Also would be more interesting if the site would publicly show the questions/verdicts as they come in.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨will i fit in more with china/japan or russia or their communities in terms of acceptance/blending in?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Not a part of either community but I’d guess russian would be easier, assuming you’ve actually spent time to immerse yourself in russian culture/language/etc. Then again if you grew up with the general american upbringing and culture you may as well hang out with whoever you want, there’s no need to specifically search out a group of people if your life has been american culture up to now.

  For what it’s worth back in my college days my old roommate was half black half korean. He really, really wanted to blend in with the koreans and other asians at the school but truth is most of the foreign students tended to avoid him. The asians that did hang around with him were the type that wanted to meet and hang out with americans and weren’t being picky about culture and whatnot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How important is it that cans are clean when i put them in the recycling.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Not sure if you meant like cleaning them all out with the dishes using soap/sponges/etc. Just rinsing them out is fine IMO.

  But either option is better than just dumping dirty cans/bottles into your recycling pile. I had a friend who was living in a shared apartment with 3-4 other people and there was this one guy that never ever cleaned or rinsed any of his recycling. Apparently the shared kitchen area where the recycling was stored would reek and attract flies and other insects all because of that guy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How much are additional lemmy instances needed/wanted beyond what we have at present?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  More Tor friendly instances would be nice. Most Lemmy instances use things like Cloudflare that freak out over Tor connections so just registering/logging into the instance is a PITA, let alone browsing. Extra bonus if the instance actually hosts the Lemmy instance in Tor itself (though realistically the rest of the Lemmy instance would still run on the clearnet since it still needs to communicate with the rest of the Fediverse).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What efforts would it take to strip the name Americans from the folks inhabiting the US?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Probably just need an executive order from the current U.S. president to rename the country “United States of Trump”. Going forward citizens would be called Trumpians.

  Google will happily go ahead and update Google Maps with the new name.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you pronounce "centaur" and why?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Like the other commenter I pronounce it sen-tor. Just like the word “dinosaur” I would pronounce die-no-sor if that makes sense. Both words end in “aur”.

  …though now you’ve got me curious about how you and your wife pronounce dinosaur :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Should I withdraw/stop putting into my 401k?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Does your employer offer you a match on your 401k contributions? That’s free money regardless of how the 401k is invested so you definitely want to keep that going.

  Even without that generally speaking you’ll still want to continue contributing to your 401k. Remember that a 401k is long term retirement savings, the market will continue to rise/fall during your employment over the next x years. You’re not required to invest 100% in U.S. specific index funds, in fact most people would recommend allocating a mix of U.S. / International / Bonds e.g. the “lazy” portfolio is one of the more famous recommendations www.bogleheads.org/wiki/Asset_allocation

  Or for just set-and-forget you can invest in target date retirement index funds if your 401k offers them (most 401k plans offer those nowadays).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Was Donald Trump ever cool?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In NYC people never thought he was cool, he was just another rich blowhard in the NYC area. He has spent pretty much his whole life desiring some sort of celebrity coolness he never really attained.

  I don’t know about people outside the NYC area, maybe they always thought he was some sort of cool real estate rich guy? Do people down south idolize that type of person? Seems unlikely then again stranger things have happened.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how tf do you warm up plates?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Usually what I do is put the plate in the oven towards the end of whenever I need to take food out so it heats up a couple of mins or so then take everything out. Use oven mitts in case you left the plate in there a bit too long.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When Lemmy got named did no one think that the "lemming" association might alienate people?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That has never crossed my mind, I’m thinking heavy metal when I think about Lemmy Kilmister / Lemmy.

  But I do think lemmings are cute, and that old video game was awesome, so it all sort of works for me :D

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the Standard Operating Procedure for if someone steals your phone while you were using it and its unlocked?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  If you weren’t already prepared (see other comments) then assume every credit/debit card you had saved in your Google Wallet/Apple Pay has been stolen - That’s one reason people snatch phones while unlocked and try to keep it unlocked.

  Also assume any payment apps you have installed are now compromised e.g. Venmo and similar - that’s another reason people steal unlocked phones and try to keep it unlocked.

  The above assumes you did not have any additional passwords/locking in the apps themselves beyond the phone’s screen unlock - I purposely

  You may be able to remote lock the phone after the fact if you get to a computer or a someone you know with a phone on them to get online and initiate a remote lock.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When would it make sense for someone to get a domain name?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  If you’re self hosting services on your own network it’s often easier to use a domain rather than have to keep up with home IP address changes. Same if you need to set up some sort of remote access into your network.

  Also useful for email, you’ll have infinite amount of email addresses you can use on your own domain. Plus if you ever need to migrate to another email provider you simply point your domain to your new email provider, you never lose your email address this way.

  There is also social media that you can use your own domain to show you own your account. e.g. seems to be common at Bluesky.