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- Comment on Are old people usually attracted to other old people? 2 weeks ago:
As others have alluded to, your question requires a distinction: are you talking about wanting to date or wanting to fuck?
Romantic attraction is based on the full package. Yes, their appearance matters, but so does their personality, their hobbies and interests, their emotional maturity, their ability to hold a conversation, their experiences and worldview, etc.
Sexiness is just about physical appearance. How their body looks, facial structure, the way they do their hair, their posture and confidence, their clothes, etc.
I’m a dude, just north of 40. I think peak physical attraction is a woman who’s 18-25, brunette, slim and toned, small to medium breasts, I’m not much of an ass man, etc.
But, I’m a middle aged dude. Would I want to date most women that age? Hellllllll no. My gf is 5 years younger than me and even that small of a gap has shown some differences in things like pop culture references and lived experiences. I can’t imagine easily connecting with someone that young.
- Comment on Texas bill would make identifying as transgender a felony punishable by jail 3 weeks ago:
They’re terrified of seeing an attractive woman and later learning she has a dick, ✨ making them gay ✨
- Comment on What is the point of the Nicole spam? 3 weeks ago:
And if you can get them to do stupid things, you can post about it here!
- Comment on Discord in Early Talks With Bankers for Potential I.P.O. 4 weeks ago:
It’s good timing that I’ve been learning Docker to run Jellyfin and *arr. Guess I’ll look into throwing matrix or mattermost on there now, too.
- Comment on 4 weeks ago:
Easily the hardest of the 3. And you’re right, they’re all very different games from each other.
- Comment on Reddit co-founder says Meta’s end to third-party fact-checking is ‘very pragmatic’ 5 weeks ago:
While you’re right, I’m not even that pessimistic about community notes. The big issue I see is time. How many impressions is something going to get before the community notes pop up? 10,000? 100,000?
A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.
Jonathan Swiftuh…Mark Trainuh…Churchilloh, fuck if I know - Comment on Gmail alternative: good idea to use personal domain+hosting? 5 weeks ago:
stored in my hosting…
This, specifically, is the issue people are warning you about. Yes, your hosting account from Bluehost has the ability to handle email, but it’s not great. It’s really there just so the server can send admin emails and such, not support a full email architecture.
Simplifying - part of the way spam is detected by the servers that receive an email is to check the IP address from where it came from against a list of IP addresses known to deliver spam. If it’s coming from a spam IP, the message is likely spam, so they either put it in the recipient’s spam folder or fail to deliver it entirely.
Now, you may think you don’t need to be worried because you’re an upstanding web citizen and would never send out spam messages. However, your hosting is on a shared server, with anywhere from a handful to dozens and dozens of not hundreds of other hosting accounts, all sharing the same IP address, and they have this email ability as well. If any one of them, intentionally or unintentionally, sends out a bunch of spam messages and gets your IP address flagged, the entire server loses its reputation for some period of time. Most of the time, this is caused by people not keeping their website security up to date and their site getting infected. The malicious code then goes and sends out as many spam emails as it can before the hosting company shuts things down.
Unfortunately, you end up having very little control over the situation.
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You can ask your hosting provider to do something about your malicious/ incompetent neighbor, but they may or may not.
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You can ask to be moved to a new server, but that’s just playing neighbor roulette.
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If you are able to get your hosting provider to do something about your neighbor, the other email servers in the world are still going to distrust receiving emails from your IP address for some period of time. You can make requests to try and have your IP address unflagged, that they may or may not do.
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Even if you do all the leg work of getting your server unflagged, one of your stupid neighbors could immediately get the server flagged again.
So, as others have said - yes, you can use your hosting account as your email server. But considering it’s only a few bucks a month to have a dedicated email service handle it, it’s generally not worth the hassle and headache.
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- Comment on GoneWild was once about people feeling wild and posting pictures of it. Now it's just OnlyFans sale 1 month ago:
I’ve never even seen the show and I read it in his voice
- Comment on Me at my library job as the only one who will weed books 1 month ago:
How long does a book have to go without being checked out to be purged?
- Comment on Is This How Reddit Ends? 1 month ago:
My biggest problem with Discord is it’s a walled garden. So much info that’s inaccessible to the rest of the world.
- Comment on They're called leaves for a reason. 4 months ago:
In a previous house I rented, the HOA ladies would drive around the neighborhood roughly 3 times a week. There were less than 200 homes in the whole subdivision. Even if you walked slowly, it would only take an hour to walk the whole thing, but instead they drove.
- Comment on What are your favorite 1000+ hour games? 4 months ago:
No Man’s Sky. A foot deep but a mile wide.
- Comment on America's Next Health Secretary Enjoying A Meal With His Future Boss and Colleagues 4 months ago:
Mike Johnson, Speaker of the House
- Comment on New album just dropped 5 months ago:
I heard this in my head to the beat of “Bite the hand that feeds,” and it actually works pretty well lol