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- Comment on The cost-of-living crisis is so bleak that some Gen Zers genuinely fear becoming homeless 3 days ago:
Silly me, I assumed all people, those in the working class at least, genuinely fear becoming homeless…
Gen-Xer here. At my highest highs and my lowest lows, I have never let go of a background fear of becoming homeless.
- Comment on Must have been a whistle blower... 5 days ago:
Once again the bear wins though so…
- Comment on Jack Dorsey claims Bluesky is 'repeating all the mistakes' he made at Twitter 6 days ago:
“People started seeing Bluesky as something to run to, away from Twitter,” Dorsey said
This quote in context regarding all the rest makes it clear he didn’t understand what people were running from. Unless he intended it to be like Truth Social and thought folks were running towards that.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 6 days ago:
The real problem is that gyms don’t pay enough to hire enough good employees. Most people who work at a gym are there because they have free access to the gym. Gym owners are cheap, mainly because gym-goers are cheap.
I can’t solve that problem. But me and a few like minded people might be able to pool our resources and open a gym for women only, where they can feel safe.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
The short version is that I think safe places for people who have a reason to need them should be encouraged not discouraged.
I guarantee you that the folks who make the sorts of argument you and others are making here are folks who live in an environment that is and has always been architected in a way that is safe and supportive for folks just like them and not so much for folks who aren’t.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
Here’s my problem with that (reasonable) viewpoint.
I think there is a fairly reasonable distinction that could be made between those two scenarios such that it should not be difficult to write the related laws in a way that handles both circumstances appropriately. You can phrase it as “the discrimination we like vs the discrimination we don’t like” but I think that’s overly reductive.
No one using this example (and there are a few) finds it hard to see the difference between a safe space for women and a club for bigots. If we can perceive that distinction, we can describe it with words, and we can legislate accordingly.
Otherwise, we’re deciding not to let people who need them have safe spaces because assholes might take advantage of our permissiveness. I’m not OK with that.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
So we complain about people trying to shelter women under the current “complicated situation” because we’re afraid that a racist might take advantage if we allow it to happen? How about we let folks trying to make things better for women do their thing, and we cross that road when we come to it with the racists?
I think there is a fairly reasonable distinction that could be made (but which I’m far too weary after this rough day to try wordsmithing) between those two scenarios such that it should not be difficult to write the related laws in a way that handles both circumstances appropriately.
Otherwise, we’re deciding not to let people who need them have safe spaces because assholes might take advantage of our permissiveness. I’m not OK with that.
I also think there are already MANY defacto white-only places even today.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
All good!
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
You either replied to the wrong person or one of us doesn’t understand what the other was saying. (And that person could be me.)
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
If we want to keep segregated spaces for things like this, fine, but there has to be some equality of access. If not with your specific group, then having a network with other groups, for instance. This is a huge, complicated topic with a lot of possibilities and nuance, and is a bit past the point of this post.
Why? Let’s pretend I’ve got fuck you money, and I’ve had some close personal experiences with family members or friends suffering through sexual abuse or rape. All those friends are women.
If I create a shelter for women who need to be safe from sexual abuse and predators and away from all likely triggers while they recover - what exactly obligates me to any of that? I’m taking my money and building a women’s shelter, because that’s the group I’ve got a personal connection with, and the group I want to help. Elon Musk can build a men’s shelter if he wants.
I’m not asking about laws, I’m asking about ethics. Why am I obligated to help EVERY group because I’ve chosen to help ONE group?
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
You would likely be screaming about the sexism from the top of your lungs if a business refused to take women as customers, or charged women more for the same thing, or any of that sort of thing.
There’s a bar right down the street. Ah, excuse me, “private club” where this very thing is true. My reaction? shrug My wife’s reaction? shrug
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
Thinking about how to make women feel safer in for example gyms seems like a better long term solution for absolutely everyone, but also doesn’t feel like it’s talked about a lot.
That’s because it ends up being the bear meme discussion in microcosm. (At least every time I’ve seen it come up.)
Context - cisgendered man here, FWIW.
Every time I’ve seen any discussion of helping women to feel safer in any context, that discussion is full of men who are offended that women even feel the need to be safer, because they tend not to believe that sexual harassment is as common for women as every woman in my life has repeatedly told me it is. So the conversation becomes about the women being “oversensitive” (or similar euphamism/synonym), not about making the discussed environment safer.
I can’t fathom why I’d give a shit about not being able to go work out a particular gym because women wanted a place to feel safe, unless it was literally the only gym within 50 miles. (And I’m doubtful that’s a common scenario.)
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
Whew, if the bear meme didn’t bring out the usual crowd of assholes, this sure did.
- Comment on Mona: Australia women's-only museum files appeal to keep men out 1 week ago:
How about if people who want to create safe spaces just create the safe spaces they want to create, and we try to respect their need instead of making sure they’ve covered every corner case an uninvolved third party can imagine?
I’m pretty sure that if there is a large enough community of people abused by mascots in a given locality, someone will create a safe space for those people.
- Comment on After Raids, NYPD Denied Student Protesters Water and Food in Jail 1 week ago:
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- Comment on Is Boeing in big trouble? World's largest aerospace firm faces 10 more whistleblowers after sudden death of two 1 week ago:
Plonk.
- Comment on Is Boeing in big trouble? World's largest aerospace firm faces 10 more whistleblowers after sudden death of two 1 week ago:
Well that’s it. Case closed. The existence of a heart attack gun in 1968 proves Boeing killed 2 whistleblowers in 2024. Good job gang.
Literally no one has made that statement, including me, the guy who brought up the heart attack gun. Take a breath man.
- Comment on Is Boeing in big trouble? World's largest aerospace firm faces 10 more whistleblowers after sudden death of two 1 week ago:
Does this mean they did it? No.
Does it warrant the reaction folks are having about it? Absolutely yes. (Edit - In light of their current troubles and the fate of the prior whistleblower.)
I stand by that statement, and don’t feel like trying again to connect the dots on the relevancy of my example. Whatever you are arguing about is - not the same.
- Comment on Is Boeing in big trouble? World's largest aerospace firm faces 10 more whistleblowers after sudden death of two 1 week ago:
How do I so strongly recognize this but can’t recall what it’s from!!??
- Comment on Is Boeing in big trouble? World's largest aerospace firm faces 10 more whistleblowers after sudden death of two 1 week ago:
So in other words, very plausible deniability.
allthatsinteresting.com/heart-attack-gun
We had that tech in 1968. I’m pretty sure it would be a matter of a phone call and some change from the couch cushions for Boeing to create that outcome.
Does this mean they did it? No.
Does it warrant the reaction folks are having about it? Absolutely yes.
- Comment on Windows 11 just isn't enticing Windows 10 users to upgrade, and its market share is actually falling 1 week ago:
Win2K was the last version of Windows I liked. By 2007 I’d had enough of their shit and moved to Linux. Each and every year since then has validated that choice, as desktop Linux has improved and Windows has enshittified further and further.
- Comment on figs 1 & 2 2 weeks ago:
I feel fairly confident that the proportion of people who would say such a think is vanishingly small.
- Comment on figs 1 & 2 3 weeks ago:
Yes, but we don’t say “your ham has a tuna hoagie in it” because someone tossed the pig a tuna hoagie one time.
- Comment on figs 1 & 2 3 weeks ago:
I recently heard that the center of a fig is actually a dead wasp. That seemed unlikely, but I googled it. Turns out, it’s not true. But it’s closer to being true than you might expect.
- Comment on But how would they be able to live on that? 4 weeks ago:
- Comment on Fairbuds are Fairphone’s proof that we really could make better tiny gadgets 4 weeks ago:
I used up all my hate when Apple did it. I still think Apple lied about their reasoning (waterproofing and space), which pisses me off more than the other complaints, many of which I also agree with.
However, at this point a big portion of the market has adjusted and accepted (to varying degrees), and that first change is so far in the past that I don’t know that I can muster up a lot of hate for mfrs who are taking away headphone jacks today when instead of upending the market they are following market trends.
Having said that, I’d be willing to bet that a larger than typical percentage of Fairphone purchases would really like to have a headphone jack.
- Comment on Tarallo - selfhostable FOSS Trello alternative 5 weeks ago:
I spent just a few minutes with it and I like it a lot. I swear it’s more responsive than actual trello! :D
- Comment on Taylor Swift among 141 new billionaires in ‘amazing year for rich people’ 1 month ago:
I was more referring to all the attention on her - the jet memes, the controversy about her relationship with Kelce, etc etc. That the guardian may be riding that wave without intending to push the same agenda is certainly possible.
- Comment on Taylor Swift among 141 new billionaires in ‘amazing year for rich people’ 1 month ago:
I really don’t understand what this focus on Taylor Swift is about.
I’m pretty sure I know what it’s about.
Female, powerful, encourages folks to vote.
All this ramped up after the “Taylor Swift tells her fans to vote” brouhaha a couple months back.
I can’t swing a stick without hearing another story about how generous she is with her $$ and her fans, so while she may not be perfect, and maybe could be doing more, I’m gonna bet she’s doing a lot more for everyday folks she helps than most of the other folks on that list.
- Comment on Video shows California police fatally shooting teenager who was reported kidnapped 1 month ago:
I would hope it’s very much a steep hill to climb when you want to justify killing the subject of an Amber Alert due to confusion during the shootout.
I get your point, and I know that’s the standard MO, but not killing the person you were sent to rescue seems like a priority that even police should be able to understand. Hell it was a popular 80s video game.